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  1. MusicIsLife

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    So i was dating this girl. She was 17, and then she moved away, and we decided to try the long distance thing.

    So after like...2 and a half weeks of it i knew it wasnt gonna work. And i told her we should break up, because it wasnt fair to either of us to keep this going. Them she told me something very...well, shocking.

    She actually wasnt 17, she lied and is actually 14.

    I feel sooo grossed out with myself. After that i flat-out refused to even "try" to keep the damn relationship going.

    I did the right thing...right?
     
    #1 MusicIsLife, Jul 31, 2008
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    That was really dirty of her to do. She should have told you upfront her real age. 14 and 17 are very different in the eyes of the Law and Morality. You definately did the right thing.
     
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    You DEFINITELY did the right thing!
     
    #3 biisme, Jul 31, 2008
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    Wow, if I were you, I'd be angry with her. She made a bold-faced lie. That's kinda important information.

    Anyway, yeah, you definitely did the right thing. Knowing what you did, ending the long-term relationship was probably the smarter choice. Try not to let it bother you that she deceived you.
     
    #4 Derek the Wolf, Jul 31, 2008
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    hey there, i'm hairdye, resident side pedophile (i hate my life).
    good thing you dumped her ass, what a bitch! (am I allowed to cuss? sorry if I'm not. i feel it appropriate here.)

    and don't be grossed with yourself. it's not your fault. and 3 years isn't much of an age difference. Besides age is nothing but a number. and saying these things makes me feel better about myself. ;x
     
    #5 hairdye, Jul 31, 2008
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    Dump.. Run... Done.

    That's really bad of her, and could cause you way too much trouble.
     
    #6 Hydrogen, Jul 31, 2008
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    Hi there! You did the right thing. There is nothing to be grossed out about. It happened and there is nothing you can do about it now. You should be angry at her for having lied about her age. It was certainly not fair to you and it could have gotten you into real trouble. It is good that you broke up. You did the right thing!

    Hope this helps!
     
    #7 Mirko, Jul 31, 2008
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    Cut all contact, and then you'll have done the right thing.

    Lex
     
    #8 Lexington, Jul 31, 2008
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    I agree with Lex.
     
    #9 Nanzuniko, Jul 31, 2008
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    It's not your fault! You did the right thing!
     
    #10 ElizabethAnne, Jul 31, 2008
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    I doubt anything good could come from a relationship between a 19y/o and a 14y/o. You had every right to split things up, it probably saved you from a lot of trouble in the future.
     
    #11 Wander, Jul 31, 2008
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    Cut all communication off with her and the right thing will have been done.

    You shouldn't feel bad about it at all. She lied to you. Nothing is your fault.
     
    #12 Gerry, Jul 31, 2008
  13. Leigh

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    you did the right thing - no questions. dont feel grossed out with yourself though. 5 years isnt a big age gap. the problem is that she lied to you - proving her immaturity.
     
    #13 Leigh, Aug 1, 2008
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    Don't feel grossed out with yourself. You were doing all the right things. It was her fault for lying!!

    You did the right things the whole way=)
     
    #14 jony8472, Aug 1, 2008
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    AMEN! ;x
     
    #15 hairdye, Aug 1, 2008
  16. SqueakyBubbles9

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    You did the right thing! She was dishonest with you! I would be angry, but I think as long as you move on and learn from it, you should be.
     
    #16 SqueakyBubbles9, Aug 1, 2008
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    It is not your fault. Although 5 years of age isnt that big she is to young in my opinion for this to continue. Id let her off easy and move on
     
    #17 WhiteFox, Aug 2, 2008
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    You did the right thing. If she'd lie to you about something that major, what else would she lie about?
     
    #18 Maddy, Aug 2, 2008
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    You did the right thing. She lied to you and trust is the most important thing in any relationship.

    Five years isn't that big. My parents are actually eight years apart.
     
    #19 Trumpetplyer23, Aug 2, 2008
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    In my opinion i think a 5 year diffence is a big thing seeing as those 5 years made her a minor....


    you did the right thing
     
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