I've come out to two friends, and they both responded amazingly! Now, I want to come out to the rest of my friends, but I want to tell my current girl friend first. I'm really scared to tell her, and I want to tell her over a text, but that seems really tacky. I know that she will take it pretty well, but I'm really scared. Does anyone have any comments on the whole text it to her idea?
I think it would be better received if you wrote a heartfelt letter and gave it to her in person for her to read while you wait. Of course face to face conversation is best, but if you can't bring yourself to do it, I would go with the letter before sending a text.
I'd just like to thank all of you for your advice. Though it's not necessarily what I wanted to hear, I do respect all of your opinions and will most likely listen to it! I plan on telling her tomorrow, so I'll tell you what I chose to do and how she reacted! Once again, thank you!
Do it face to face. If you do it that way and talk to her serriously about it she should be able to read your emotions and soften the blow better than over a text.
I would recommend face to face, but if you feel as if she would physically harm you in that scenario, go with text. This way, u won't be in the same room if her reaction is bad. It really just depends on how you feel she would take the info. Or maybe try a phone call, or even FaceTime. These seem more sincere than a text, but not necessarily face to face. You get what I'm sayin'?
tell her in direct contact, face to face. Also, super important you have someone there with you. I would recommend having a straight ally. When I came out to my papa, I had my older sister there. MY oldest one was in ND. Having an ally makes things WAY easier. I would advise to find someone who is older, responsible, and a straight ally. I don't recommend using a gay person or someone who is questioning. The reason is because some parents/friends are weird and amy think they are "making" you gay. If you choose to use a homo for reinforcement, tread carefully. I do not know your mother or friend, but definitely tell them face to face and use back up.
Thank you for the additional advice that was recently posted! Luckily, I do not feel like she will harm me in any way, but I will definitely bring one of my friends along with me. Unfortunately, I said that I would tell her today, but I got too scared. I'm going to try to do it tomorrow. As soon as I tell her, I will tell the world (or at least my friends and sister and maybe parents), so hopefully I'll be able to tell her tomorrow.
Good luck for tomorrow! You can do it! As someone who just came out to my best friend, I definitely recommend face to face. I'm kind of shy, so I understand the preference for using text over doing it in person. But when you do it in person with a friend (who you trust), it feels so great to have them be there with you. For me, I don't think I'll be able to come out to my parents face to face. I just don't want to be there when it happens (so I'll leave a letter). They would just start throwing bibles at me and reading me scriptures and all that.
