Coming out at school

Be prepared for the negative responses, there will be quite a few. If you're coming out to individuals, one at a time, then you will have better reactions. However, the faster your whole school knows, the faster you can really be youself in school. It's really your choice here: either come out slowly to individuals, or tell a few people who you know will spread the information around.
Although I haven't told everyone in my school, a few people I never told already knew (my friend I was talking to today said I was setting off hig gaydar long before I told him). Just make sure you're prepared for the negative reactions.

 

If you're planning on telling friends first, it will probably be better for you when you come out, because you'll have support? Do you think your school is accepting in general or not? Do you have a GSA?

 

Lex isn't the only font of wisdom on this board, mes amis. Asteroid has pretty much said it all.

In essence, your best and closest friends will end up being "practice". It'll give you a chance to try telling somebody about your sexuality, which words to say, how to phrase it. And it'll give you an opportunity to see what kind of reaction your "coming out" may result in, and how you might respond to that. These are people who will (presumably/hopefully) be the least judgmental, and the most willing to hear you out. A bit like skating or biking on grass - if you do fall, you'll land on spongy grass, and you'll be OK. Then you can move on to pavement, once you feel good enough and confident enough that you won't fall anymore.

Lex

 

If your school doesn't have a GSA, pick any teacher you like, and talk to him/her. You may find that your teachers can be more understanding and helpful than anyone else. Why? Because they're usually old enough to have real experience with these situations, and they can view you as someone objectively: they don't have a lot of conflicting emotions and can assist you in the most straightforward manner. Like I said earlier, coming out slowly will give you greater control and confidence, and in your situation, that's what I would recommend. Don't rush it!

 

I know this is going to sound presumptious and all. But I find it to be fact. Coming out at school has become far more exaggerated of a step than it is. It's more of a step in accepting yourself, not others accepting you.

I mean, if you go to a religious school that might kick you out for being gay, where everyone is against homosexuality, than this doesn't apply.

However, I know that when i considered coming out, I was way afraid people would be like, OMG! EW! STEVIE IS GAY! I was wrong. Most people will be shocked and amused to find out. Most people could care less what sex you wanna screw.

And even if they do. It won't be everyone. You'll only see the dumb people for a couple more years and then everyone will get on with their lives. Don't fear it so much. Be accepting of yourself and they will accept you too.

edit: then again, considering you're transgender, idk how you're planning on coming out. Do you dress like a boy now and are planning to start dressing like a girl (or vice versa). Or are you dressing like a your gender identity and want to tell them your biological sex? Or just coming out as bi. The transgender ordel may be a little harder to deal with, I must say. So in that case, be cautious, listen to Lex. ;x

 

When I came out at school, I was kind of surprised, because I only told a few friends and they asked me if I cared if they told other people, and I was fine with it, but before I knew it the whole school knew lol, also by coming out at school I gained a lot more friends

 

^ i agree with that. ^

except for the religious part. yes, many schools may kick you out or give you a loving environment to "change" (*eye roll*), but some are very excepting and carring. it just depends on the denomination.




from my expirience, in high school less people say things to your face, than behind your back. depending on what you are going to come out as (bisexual or transgender) the reaction will be very different. remember, there will always be negative people. those are the people you will only have to deal with for only a little while longer. there will be things that people say and do that will hurt, but alot of people will be suportive.

be careful with how you say it. no matter what, it is high school and there will be those who make up stories and spread nasty rumours. but, like i said before, so many people will support you.


good luck!

 

ugh.
its things like that, that make people believe some of us come out just to gain friends.
I became one of the most popular people in school after i came out.
but it sure as hell wasn't because I'm gay.

It happened a couple months after came out. I didn't know why at first, but now I do. I became a free person. I no longer had anything to hide. I was happier. I became incredibly comfortable around people and made friends with everyone. Now Highschool is over and my popularity means nothing. which sucks but whatever.

you don't get friends because you're gay.
and if you do, thats lame and so are those people. ;x

(I don't mean for this to sound like a personal attack on you. the idea is what i'm attacking. )

 

Well I can tell you what I did. I started by telling my mom since I knew once word got around that she would hear and I wanted her to find out by me. I already had two very close friends who knew so I then told my other close friends and let that set in with them for about a week. Then it was my friends and the people I talk to. Well word started to spread to their best friends and then everyone knew. It was pretty easy, but make sure you tell your closet friends first.