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Coming out to my Dad.

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by ILikePie72, May 6, 2014.

  1. ILikePie72

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    I posted a while back about this same topic, and I actually followed through and came out to my sister! She is 100% in support of me and my sexuality hasn't changed anything between us, though I haven't seen her since :icon_sad: (we live a ways away from eachother). I know it'll take her some getting used to but she's okay with it. Now is where the real challenge comes in... I already know this is gunna be one of the biggest obstacles of my young life to overcome... My dad is a 50-something-year-old, not too by the book Catholic Mexican, who grew up as a hippie surfer in LA haha. My fear is the fact that he won't accept me, while my sister and mom say otherwise, I can't help but get over that fear... I wanted to move in with him this summer, but now my sister tells me I should come out to him before I do. That leads into a kinda selfish problem... I don't want to live at my moms anymore, and I feel like if I come out to him before I move in with him I won't be able to anymore... plz help... any advice would be awesome...
     
  2. Yossarian

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    Why not plan an extended visit so you can gradually see what it would be like living with him and get some feedback about his views on homosexuality before you decide to move there for the long haul. Make it a "summer visit" while school is out. If you decide to come out to him towards the end of summer and it doesn't go well, then you can return to your mom when school starts back in the Fall. Or if you decide that you shouldn't come out to him, same deal. You do NOT have to come out to him to spend the summer with him, regardless of what your sister thinks; that is your decision, not hers.