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coming out to friends???

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by mickeytheles, May 7, 2014.

  1. mickeytheles

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    So I really want to come out to some of my friends. They will be the first people I come out to and I'm really nervous. I would just like some advice on how I should do it. I know they'll be pretty supportive, just not completely sure what to do.:bang:
     
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    I did it on National Coming Out Day, but that is a ways off so that probably won't help much. I was just talking to one of my friends alone, I freaked out for like 10 minutes, and then finally said it. I guess I would say say it as soon as you can in the conversation, it just gets more nerve-racking the longer it takes. I would also say practice writing it down, saying it in front of a mirror (maybe with a forced smile for a bit), etc. I wish I'd done this because when I was going to say it the word just seemed odd and like it didn't fit me and like I was making it up. If I had practiced it beforehand, this might've helped.
     
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    Thanks this is really helpful. I'm just really nervous about the whole thing :lol:
     
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    If you think your friends will be supportive why not start a conversation with them about LGB issues? Keep it fairly casual, maybe something about same sex marriage or a pride event taking place somewhere, or even a celebrity who has recently come out. If the conversation goes well and they do make supportive noises, seize the moment.

    If you manage to tell them, please let us know how it goes.
     
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    Thanks :slight_smile: I'll let you know how it goes
     
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    Good luck! (*hug*)
     
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    Bake cupcakes and write I'm gay in frosting on them then give them to whoever you want to tell. How could someone hate you if you give them food
     
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    I might do the cupcake thing. I make them for her sometimes