More Family Suspicions

I think they know and are trying to segway the conversation to a point where you yourself tell them that you are gay.

 

I believe they are pretty sure about you being gay. They even know why you bring up this sort of conversations, they are not in denial at all. I'm pretty sure they are just paving the road for you so that you can come out without the awkward "mom... I have something to tell you, blah blah...." conversation.

Of course they can't make you come out if you are not ready, but they certainly are trying to let you say it. I say take the chance you are given, many would like to have our parents to start the conversation instead of us.

Good luck man, I hope you can say it to them soon.

 

Honestly, from that it doesn't sound like your parents are denying it. This part here..

"You just want to see what our values and beliefs are so you can come out and tell us that you're gay."

..sounds about right. I mean you even challenged your mum by saying she can't read you, and then she immediately guessed you were gay.

It doesn't sound like your parents are denying it. It sounds like they already know and are waiting for you to come out, but you keep denying it.

 

Before I post anything else, I just want to say...

Holy shit, what the fuck? Who says that to their kid? No offense, but your dad sounds like a real jerk. I'm sorry you had to hear that.

Anyways, about the rest... I'm pretty sure your parents are 99% sure you are gay, and you've basically said as much to them before. I know you were wanting to wait until your trip was over, but would you rather the trip be filled with them talking about how you are gay or constantly asking if you are gay or like any girls? :/ You should come out when you feel like you are ready, though. I think your mom will be supportive - not sure about your dad. He'd likely come around.

 

Your dad is an asshole! How could he say such a thing? Anyway, you handled that really well. You come out on your own terms, don't let anyone force you out of the closet. You might want to tell your mother first, she seems more accepting.

 

After reading that posting, I'm very sure they know. They just want you to confirm it, BUT don't feel bounced into it. You have made a lot of progress and it's up to you to decide when the time is right to tell them. Keep it on your terms.

 

I agree. Your parents are making educated guesses, and they're on to you. Plus, your dad is a dick. Seriously wtf.

 

Sounds like they know. And @confuseduser99, my parents responded with the words "it's like having a future torn away" when I told them. Some people are unfortunately very homophobic and assume that being gay means no future immediately

Your mum sounds like she would be pretty cool about it, whereas your dad sounds quite a bit like mine and would likely take a long time to come to terms with it. My two-penny's worth would be to maybe confirm it to your mum but do it when your dad isn't around and won't be for a few hours so that you can talk things through with her and answer any questions she'll have. You can see if she thinks your dad would be able to handle it, or if she thinks it would be more prudent to keep it quiet from him

 

Maybe you could have your sister be with you when you do it? Just so you know you'll have some support.
Listen: they know. At the very least, they strongly suspect. I know it's hard now, but I think you will be glad you told them.
Good luck!

 

They know; they just want you to say the words so they can be justified (in their own minds) acting like homophobic jerks, although your father has jumped the gun on doing that.

I don't know why people act like this towards their own children. Why they don't show sympathy for the likely tougher time you are going to have in life. Why they don't reassure you that they will be there to help you however they can, because they love you. Maybe they will eventually come around and realize this is not something you chose, but something that likely is derived from some properties of their own which they passed on to you. Whatever their problems are, there is nothing wrong with you, and I am sure you would have told them already if they weren't acting so ignorantly as parents. Maybe you should get some PFLAG literature ready for the day you decide to confirm what they already know, and a copy of "Prayers for Bobby" so they can realize how stupid and sometimes dangerous it is to deny reality and put additional stress on gay children.

 

That's your cue to say "She defends what I say because she knows I am gay, and she loves me just as I am, like you and Dad are supposed to do, but apparently can't."

 

There's a high chance that they know you're gay and they're trying to get used to the idea (your Mum is succeeding quicker than your Dad).
It's often the case that parents of gay individuals know before the gay individual does.

 

Well for me I would've just told them straight away that I'm gay when your mother hinted at it. It seems very obvious that they know about it, maybe you should just come out now in hopes that your dad will stop rattling and perhaps accept the situation.