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My coming out note for my mom

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by iamjustababy, May 22, 2014.

  1. iamjustababy

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    I wrote this for her and I want your guy's opinions about it or if it needs anything

    I just want you to know that I hate keeping secrets from you, but I have been keeping one for a long time...before I tell you I need you to know that I love you and hope you will accept me for who I am. I am gay. I've known for a while now, even before you gave me the "gay talk" I knew I like girls, but I didn't think that my feelings towards them meant anything until I learned that being gay is a thing. I'm sorry I couldn't tell you in person but it would be to much for me to bear, I've been hopping and praying that you will still love and accept me for who I am
    -kendra

    I'm leaving this for her before school tomorrow so wish me luck:icon_sad:
     
  2. BookDragon

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    I just want you to know that I hate keeping secrets from you, but I have been keeping one for a long time...before I tell you I need you to know that I love you and hope you will accept me for who I am. I am gay. I've known for a while now, even before you gave me the "gay talk" I knew I like girls, but I didn't think that my feelings towards them meant anything until I learned that being gay is a thing. I'm sorry I couldn't tell you in person but it would be to much for me to bear, I've been hopping and praying that you will still love and accept me for who I am

    Get rid of the bits in red. The LAST thing you want to do is tell your mum you expect she will stop loving you. I realise that isn't what you mean to say but that IS how she will read it.
     
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    Ok thanks :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Good luck (*hug*)
    Feel free to update us with what happens afterwards.
    And remember to be patient with your mum.

    Peace be with you.
     
  5. iamjustababy

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    Thank you :slight_smile: and yeah I will update
     
  6. iamjustababy

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    I decided not to give her the letter today for a few reasons

    1 lots of stressful stuff this weekend and don't wanna stress her out more
    2 I haven't fully finished it
    3 I have a nervous breakdown thinking about it

    So I might have something to share next week :3