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I want to ask a guy out

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by vampireboy56, Aug 16, 2008.

  1. vampireboy56

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    I've been talking to this guy on Myspace, he is a friend of my friends. So we've been talking for about a month or so and i want to ask him out but I don't know how to ask him...any advice?
     
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    I would just ask to go to the pictures.

    It can be classed as a date AND just a a day out with a friend.

    Depending on what they class it as, i think, says the feel.

    But if thats a no go, then i would just ask to go for a coffee or something.

    Good luck.
     
  3. Helen

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    well...I don't want to appear all prudish and everything, but do be careful, considering you only know him on myspace. Also, I'd recommend not calling it 'asking out', you should probably just meet up, perfectly harmlessly, as friends first, just so you can get to know him in person, then see how that goes. You don't need to rush into these things.

    (also, make sure that he's not straight first :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:)
     
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    When I was young... Hee Hee. We used to say, " Hey ! Do you want to go to a movie on Saturday??" Then we'd go to the movie, as friends.
    Or lets go bike riding,skateboarding,rollerblading.
    The thing is to get together to get to know him better. It doesn't have to be a "Date."
    Good luck.:thumbsup:
     
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    Hi there! Given that you know him only from myspace, I would take it slow. How much do you know about him? Is he straight, bi, gay?

    I agree with the above posters that maybe asking him out or making it sound like a date might not be the best approach. Instead you could ask him, if he wants to meet you for a coffee, or go and see a movie or something else that friends do. Try to get to know him better before taking it further. Try to develop a friendship first and take it from there.

    Hope this helps!
     
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    he is bi but im beginning to suspect gay
     
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    I think it's good that you know what his sexual identity is, still I would take it slow. Try to get to know him more. Keep it casual at first and see how the relationship develops.
     
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    good idea...thanks
     
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    If you haven't met him in person, do that first. Make it simple and activity-based. It doesn't have to be dinner-and-a-movie. "I'm going to go back-to-school shopping this Saturday - would you like to grab lunch and join me?" Something really simple like that. Then it's not a "date", and you can get a better feel for the chemistry between you.

    Lex