... come out via letter, text message, email, social media private messaging, or any way where you do not have to physically speak to them/the target person is not in the same room as you when they find out? I'm in high school, considering coming out to my two best friends and I feel pretty nervous just thinking about it. But I also feel like my friends deserve the truth in person because we three have been close since kindergarten and have always stuck together. Well I guess that doesn't really affect our closeness but still... It feels wrong to come out via electronic devices/letters. What do you think?
It is not at all wrong to come out via written format. My friend came out as bi over text. I can out as biromantic to a friend over email. There are upsides to coming out over written format, because you can organize your thoughts, ect. etc. If you want to, go for it!
I'm out to seven people, and I've only actually told two of them physically. There's nothing wrong with coming out on electronic media. The first person I came out to was my best friend. I told her on facebook chat and she was perfectly fine with it, and then later, when I met her, we talked about it in detail and it felt really good. They're your friends anyway. They'll understand if it's hard for you to come out. So to answer the question, no it isn't cowardly
The first 3 people I came out to was over technology related things. Facebook, FaceTime/Facebook, phone call. If that makes you more comfortable, do it that way. No shame.
Nope, I don't find anything wrong with coming out on social networking or messaging apps. It still counts as coming out and it's a very brave thing to do. coming out takes a lot of courage. Well done x Btw I came out to two people on whatsapp so it's not cowardly.
I think it's okay to write a letter or e-mail to parents, in fact, it's a very good idea if you are struggling to tell them. With a letter or e-mail, you have the chance to really think and consider everything you want to say without interruption or criticism. I would caution against posting a message on social media and letting parents/siblings find out that way. If I were a parent I definitely wouldn't want my Son or Daughter to let me know through Facebook - for friends, acquaintances and more distant relatives, it's more acceptable, but I don't think that's a good way to tell really close relatives. Just my opinion.
Not at all. There's no right or wrong way to come out at all. Just as long as you feel totally ready and comfortable in the way in which you are doing it. Coming out to parents via a letter is a very good idea; it lets you get all your thoughts and emotions down on paper in a logical order and gives your parents time to digest the information you're giving to them - often mitigating the shock, thus leading to a more calm reaction. As for friends, I would go for a more casual approach. I told my friends face to face, when the topic arose in conversation. A few other of my friends I told via text due to not being able to meet up with them in person. It doesn't really matter how you do it, as long as you say it and you feel comfortable doing so. Good luck with everything and I'm sure it'll all work out for the best
