I am a 41 year old female. I've known I liked women since I was 14. I came out as bi at 21 (thinking that would be easier for my family to accept) but went back in the closet a year later. I don't understand why I did that. That year was my happiest. I felt more comfortable with myself then than at any other time in my life. My problem now is that I've been married to a man for 7 years. I came out to him 3 weeks ago but he still wants to be with me. He totally doesn't understand and I don't know how to make him understand. He is a great guy and I feel terrible about hurting him. I also don't want to lose my best friend. I have told no one else that I'm gay except my therapist (who I'm seeing because I am depressed and anxiety ridden over this). I know there are others who have been through this. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Hi Christine73, welcome to EC. I haven't been through this sort of situation, so I can only imagine the conflicting feelings you must be having. I suggest you repost this in the LGBT Later in Life section, many members who post there have been, or still are in hetero-marriages, and could offer you their perspectives. I hope you'll find the advice you need, you're in the right place here at EC!
