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I was this close to telling some one (2)

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by DeviantAttitude, Jun 13, 2014.

  1. DeviantAttitude

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    I'm a gamer boy. I game on PC and I usually use a tool called TeamSpeak. Imagine it's like skype. I use it to talk to the members of a gaming community I play with. The someone the title references is my cousin. He is about 6 months older than me, straight, open minded and living abroad with his parents and brother. He's my best friend, by far.
    Today I'm feeling nervous and like everyday he and I were joking around saying the usual stuff. The usual stuff for us is things like "penis" or "you are so gay". But today I felt different saying those things, also because I said them to make him stop saying them.
    I went upstairs to eat dinner, came back down and unmuted the Mic/Speakers... then I froze. I do not freeze. I'm almost never speechless.
    This close. And then I noticed that in the chat room there was a "friend"/ex-colleague. I dont like him that much.
    Now I'm thankful I didn't come out.
    I can kind of predict my cousin's reaction:
    Me: Ron, I think I'm bisexual...
    Him: So, you like penis?
    Me: Yeah, probably...
    Him: OK!
    and maybe after a few hours:
    Him: You weren't serious right?

    With my mother I expect laughter or something like that but that's all I can think.
    Wish me luck!

    Jay, 17

    (Sorry if I didn't make myself clear, typing these serious things while nervous is difficult.)
     
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    Hello deviantattitude!

    First, how the hell do you like TeamSpeak? There are better tools :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: (i'm kidding, ofc)

    @Seriously: Well, i'm not sure if you need advice on this, but i wish you luck!

    If you think your cousin will be friendly when you tell him, go ahead :grin:. But peraphs you should wait 'till you both are alone (RL or TS)

    Good Luck :grin:
     
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    As I said he's living in another country and he, along with the rest of the family, all come to visit the parts that are still here where I live. Maybe I'll tell him then maybe I'll tell him right now, literally. We are alone in the chat room... nervous... a lot!
     
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    No time like the present
     
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    I told him. Waited an hour for the reaction, he's fine with it. Almost the same reaction I predicted XD. He said it was fine and understandable. This going better than expected. :grin:
     
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    Congratulations! :grin:

    You have at least one person to trust about this now, and that will make everything a lot easier.
     
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    Congrats! Isn't it nice having that weight off your shoulders?
     
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    Although I felt much, much better, I am still confused. Also today I told my mother whats happening. She understood and she told me to ask a girl out. All because I also have a crush on this girl from my school... I just sent her a Facebook friend request... maybe she will help me understand something about myself!
    Thanks for the support guys! Couldn't have done it without you. (!)
     
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    Congratulations! Looks like things are taking a turn for the better. Glad your cousin and mother are okay with it. :slight_smile: