I came out sorta at the end of my high school years sorta. Like I claimed when I was 12 I felt that I was a gay boy or whatever. It was just when I was 12 I realized I didn't really fit with with my peer really and the road I was on seemed like the wrong one. I always did not feel it was a good idea for me. Before that point I hadn't really identified as male or female. I just felt nothing. I changed my mind because it got weird and when I came out to my family shortly after that I started to be abused for that reason. So I kind of just tried to take it back. Growing up I got more feminine and masculine seemingly. But most of my femininity is based on the sexual side not my regular self. But anyway, I realized when I was 17 I didn't identify either way. I at the time identified as bigender. I came out again. It wasn't that bad. Not my family. I'm talking about the other people I came out to. Acted as if it was comical or that I was insane and would make jokes about it. Some just acted it was the oddest thing since I tend to like guys for the most part. At the time it was believed I only liked men. It was hard in one family because the girls kept saying I was nuts and liked girls. And everyone acted like they didn't believe me because of my sexuality. I kind of have always felt like who gives a buck it doesn't matter that much you know? Because it seemed better when people didn't know. The judgement seems better before and after. Um how do you respond/deal with someone of this character?
I never really wanted coming out to seem like a joke reason why I've kind of just went with the way things are. People accept me as a gay man who's on the feminine side. It seems better this way that I don't have to be judged any harsher than this.
When I came out to my friend she was just really confused. I had to explain everything to her. Then she was like "Ok." We never spoke of it again.
Some of my friends though it was funny I said anything since I had been "passively" out for quite some time, but nobody really laughed or thought it was a joke.
I guess it's just different environments. For me I was always told it wasn't really an option that I didn't know what I really wanted and the like. Maybe it's personal stereotypes I guess. ---------- Post added 14th Jun 2014 at 08:57 PM ---------- Yeah I got that quite a lot. That's I think some would say I was messed up or whatever.
to me it seemed comical. with friends mostly. they just sit there and go "THAT EXPLAINS A WHOLE LOT!" or "IT'S NO WONDER THAT YOU DIDN'T...." type of thing.
first person though I was jsurt saying something random because the conversation fell still (it was at night, just went to sleep after that) second person + first person: first person knew I was serious now, I had to promised the second person for 100 euros. third person: he just tohugh I was joking, even when person 1 and 2 told him it was true he though we were all joking with him. After a while he finally accepted that it was real. All of them just find it super funny that I'm the guy that is gay, out o all those other guys that look gay.
Haha yes! I told my brother and he laughed and said "well duh! You know you really do give off that lesbian vibe sis".
My mum laughed but more because I think it was totally unexpected and she had no idea. I think it was more out of suprise than any kind of negative reaction. She's very accepting... Happy days
I think some people don't know how to react so they try to make a joke of it to ease the tension. No one should be making fun of you for being yourself. If you consider yourself bi-gender then that is who you are. Be yourself and let everyone else figure out how to deal with it.
I haven't gotten much slack for coming out, although once, I came out to a group of girls - especially one who was fairly energetic - and for the rest of the semester, sometimes they would ask me questions that sometimes bordered on the silly side. I didn't mind it too much (unless they started talking about sex) because I figured it was better for them to ask a person who really did straddle the line rather than somebody who was going to feed them falsehoods. Anyway, I'm going to concur with those above - if your buds are joking around to make light of the situation, then okay, but if they're making fun of you or bullying you or acting like it really is a joke? Then that's uncool. I would either make it clear with them that it's not a joke the next time they bring it up or else stop chilling out with them. As for your abuse situation, I'm really sorry that had to happen to you. ;A; Don't forget that we're always here for you, and there's no shame in finding someone to talk with about it.
Yes. Damn it, yes. I told my younger sister. I thought she'd be supportive, but hell no. She laughed in my face, claimed it was "funny" - I don't think she took it seriously. She rubs it in my face: "Well, I don't care what people call me." Yeah, okay. That's you. Stop saying it like you're better than me.
