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Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Midnight Angel, Apr 17, 2007.

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  1. Midnight Angel

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    I'm new here and while i find it inspirational, i hold the view of the minority. I don't like being gay. Not at all. Since dating doesnt interest me there's no real point is there? So i just tend to lock it away like a don't ask don't tell type of thing. Since like i said i don't plan on dating it's the best way to handle it i think. Agree? Disagree? All comments welcome:icon_bigg
     
    #1 Midnight Angel, Apr 17, 2007
  2. Daniel6

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    i always tell my friends that i'm focusing on studying and dont want to date yet. im still in the closet
     
    #2 Daniel6, Apr 17, 2007
  3. Midnight Angel

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    That's cool.I have this thing where i can't be close to anyone though. Since i can't there isn't any point in me telling anyone anyway cause it isn't like i wanna act out on it.
     
    #3 Midnight Angel, Apr 17, 2007
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    Forgive me for asking, but if you dont feel you can be close to anyone...how exactly would this differ if you were straight - and if it wouldnt be different, why do you hate being gay?
     
    #4 Micah, Apr 17, 2007
  5. Midnight Angel

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    well it would be the same. I dont like it cause its something thats just there. I virtually repress it. Id rather be neutral (for lack of a better word) neither one nor the other.
     
    #5 Midnight Angel, Apr 17, 2007
  6. Midnight Angel

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    Also there are alot of people who get depressed from not telling people but ive never felt that way. I'm perfectly happy ignoring it. If you don't like it it doesn't matter right
     
    #6 Midnight Angel, Apr 17, 2007
  7. Midnight Angel

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    Im not sure if it's bad to keep it vehemently secretive but if it works why not
     
    #7 Midnight Angel, Apr 17, 2007
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    As long as you are happy, then it doesn't really matter. At some point in your life though there may be somebody who "WOWS" you and you might change your mind.
     
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  9. Midnight Angel

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    Thanks becky:icon_bigg although i am stubborn (inherent in my family) and the latter part is extremely unlikely but you never know
     
    #9 Midnight Angel, Apr 17, 2007
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    Well if you don't like but are perfectly happy ignoring it, I'd have to ask the obvious question: why are you here, in this forum? Because this forum is all about being gay, right?

    Doesn't seem like you're ignoring it all that effectively if you're interacting here with all us other gay and gay-positive folk. :eusa_danc

    And in a related vein, if you want to be neutral about it, just be neutral about it. No one's stopping you from just being gay without being gay being a big deal.
     
    #10 joeyconnick, Apr 17, 2007
  11. Midnight Angel

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    well its like they say even if you dont want to be you are. Thats why im here:icon_bigg. Plus im trying to think of a better word than neutral. Isnt working though
     
    #11 Midnight Angel, Apr 17, 2007
  12. Midnight Angel

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    Plus its very hard to be neutral when the feeling's still there. Boy I need better methods of repression
     
    #12 Midnight Angel, Apr 17, 2007
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    Or you could try dating! *grin*

    Or at least jacking off... :grin:
     
    #13 joeyconnick, Apr 17, 2007
  14. Midnight Angel

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    hahaha id be a terrible dater
     
    #14 Midnight Angel, Apr 17, 2007
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    If you're genuinely happy not telling people then that's fine. I was like that for years. You might find one day though that things change. About a month ago I woke up one morning and just went "Why?" No idea what triggered it. I told a friend yesterday and she seemed to take it ok. Was a bit quiet but I think she probably needs a bit of time to absorb it since apparently she had no idea. Never would have dreamed two months ago that anyone would know - at that stage I thought I'd be keeping it a secret forever.
     
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    EmperorDJT, I may be wrong, but I think the word you are looking for to replace nuetral would be "asexual". I guess it would solve a lot of your problems. I thought I might be asexual for a while b/c I had no interest in dating anybody, but as Becky mentioned, that changed. You could check out www.asexuality.org. good site much like EC.
     
    #16 Zec24, Apr 17, 2007
  17. Midnight Angel

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    Well i at least i hope i can keep it a secret forever. I don't think anyone needs to know although you may be right. That could happen one day. Zec i think you're right thats the word i needed. Thanks:icon_bigg
     
    #17 Midnight Angel, Apr 17, 2007
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    I'm still in the closet. I have a close school friend that I've slept with a few times but I don't think that he's gay? I turned 13 about 3 months ago and feel that I'm not ready yet to tell anyone. One of my friends thinks that I'm gay.
     
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    Yeah you gotta kinda wait until you're ready and until you feel comfortable about it yourself. Or at least more comfortable/as comfortable as possible.
     
    #19 joeyconnick, Apr 17, 2007
  20. Midnight Angel

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    All these people who come out to people im like pssh never doing that!:icon_bigg
     
    #20 Midnight Angel, Apr 18, 2007
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