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I want to tell my bestfriend that I'm bi but there's a slight problem..

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Ilyasdfghjkl, Jun 15, 2014.

  1. Ilyasdfghjkl

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    Okay so honestly I fear my own sexuality..a lot. I support gays but I'm embarrassed whenever I find myself crushing on a girl(I like 1 guy out of every 10 girls, roughly I don't count)

    I've known I was a little weird about girls since I was around the age of 10. It wasent until I was 12 that I started actually watching lesbian porn and admitting it a little. Here I am at 13 frustrated about the fact that I like girls. I know I like girls now. I admit it. I just don't know if I'm bi, pansexual, or maybe a full on lesbian. I'm pretty sure I like guys though. I find them appealing but I like girls a bit more.

    So anyways me and my bff have been friends since we were in the fourth grade. We cuddle all the time and have even made out once. It was amazing. We have talked about it but we only said how it was normal for girls and shit. I know she liked it because she was moaning into my mouth.

    Here I'll actually go into detail. So one day this random guy asked me and her to makeout for him on skype. Most of the time we say eww no but randomly she asked me if I wanted to. I said whatever idc we are best friends it won't matter. So we did but sucked at it. After awhile we gave up and a few hours later we were cuddleing. She was texting so she sat on my stomach. After awhile she bent down and put her arms around me. Our faces were really close and both of us were breathing loudly. She eventually started to grind on me. Like 20 minutes later she started texting again.

    When she stopped I got on top of her. I felt like I was hurting her so I told her I would get off but she told me she liked it when I was on top way better. Me being the pervert that I am eventually thought that maybe she liked the way my pussy was grinding up against her whenever I moved. I was right aha. So I did what she did to me, our faces were inches apart when she started making out with the air a few inches away from my mouth. I slowly made my lips to hers and we made out for like an hour. As I said before she was moaning a lot. It was the first time either of us had made out before. Sometimes we still cuddle. It gets sexual a lot but the most that happens is someone starts grinding on the other person.

    To be honest I really love her. She never makes anything awkward. She doesn't care if I look like shit. She's my best friend. I honestly wouldnt mind dating her but I also wouldn't mind not dating her. I really want to tell her that I like girls too but I'm scared she'll make things awkward and stop cuddling with me!! I mean it's not always sexual. I just don't want anything to change because of my sexuality. I'm scared that she might wanna stop spending the night, and stop hugging me.

    I know she's ate out a girl before and kissed her but she was high and says she regrets it. She supports gays too but I just idk. I really want to tell someone. She's my only friend. She's the only one I can trust. What should I do?! (I KNOW I TALK ALOT ABOUT CUDDLING I JUST LOVE CUDDLING okay oh yeah and I should mention that at school we hold hands a lot so everyone already calls us lesbians)
     
  2. DeviantAttitude

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    Well, talk to her. Tell her how you feel. I know it's hard to face things like these, but imagine like this. Imagine she was thinking of posting the same thing here. Maybe she is facing the same problem you are. You have to ask her if she has any feelings towards you. If she does it's already one big step, if she does not tell her how you feel, and if she is really your friend, she will accept it.

    Good luck!
     
  3. Karabeara

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    I agree with this. Also I have a best friend who I rub her back and we cuddle and stuff but we've never kissed and I don't like her that way. But everyone calls us lesbians to but only she knows that I actually am one. I told her when I wasn't sure and she's supported me the whole way. She even took me to her homecoming because I'm homeschooled. She changes in front of me still, still has weekly sleepovers with me, and is even ok with being my fake lesbian lover. I don't know if your friend will be as supportive but I just wanted to let you know that there's hope. Ps. she's completely straight.