Emailed my therapist

Hi there. I think it's pretty brave for you to bring it up like that, even if it wasn't face-to-face. I understand how difficult it is, but I don't know why.

As for suggestions, you may want to bring a notepad and a pen or something in case you feel uncomfortable with talking. I don't think she would mind, would she? And you can also request that she ask yes-no questions, so include of your mind racing for words, you can just shake or nod your head.

I never really went to a therapy session, though, so these suggestions are just things I think would help me. Maybe they'll work out for you?

Good luck!

 

If it's any comfort to you, that's a very common fear. I was thinking of going to a therapist myself, and I got really stressed because I kept thinking they would insist I'm going through a phase - BS! - or that I'm just finding another way to deal with low self-esteem or something like that. Funnily enough, my self-esteem as improved quite a bit since I accepted myself. Haha!

But, think of it this way. Therapists are trained in this sort of stuff. They're supposed to support you, not make you feel worse by shooting down your feelings. Besides, how would they know how you feel? It's up to you to communicate it over, right?

In any case, I hope all goes well. Mind updating us on how it goes?

 

The only one who lives near us only deals with adults. D: But there are two more who helps with LGBT, they just don't specialize it. Maybe I'll end up going to one of them, maybe not.

I feel you about the support =/= agreement though. Haha.

And, thank you! Good luck.

 

What if you went back through your posts here and printed out any that talked about anything you'd like to go over with her? You could highlight the phrases that would help you verbalize your questions/issues. Take the printouts and use them for reference.
Just a thought.

 

Congrats! That took an incredible amount of courage to be vulnerable enough to tell your therapist. If you haven't already, you should treat yourself. Pint of ice cream or another small thing that brings you joy. I know it's scary to move forward, but it sure beats being frozen with fear.

 

It honestly took me a couple months to bring it up with my first therapist, so I can relate to how difficult bringing it up is - I'm happy that you've been able to get past that barrier!

As for how she will react, if she's worth the degrees in her name she will be able to deal with it. I wouldn't fear her disbelief, either - frankly I wouldn't have many kind things to say about a therapist that didn't - I suspect you'll be fine in that regard.

I wonder if you might feel comfortable bringing it up in a small way like "So, about the email I sent you [after verifying that she got the email]. I would like very much to talk about it, but I find it difficult to bring up in person. So I don't know how to go about it."

Or something along those lines? Assuming difficulty bringing it up in person is still the case for you, anyhow.

 

Hey Storm,
The email you wrote was perfect Well done sending it!
I'm sending an email to my own therapist tonight, for Monday. I failed to bring it up in the last session. My intense anxiety over this is quite funny, as it's going to be confidential. But I can't help but be scared. I had no idea how to write it, yours has been a good help!

It's very likely your therapist will open the discussion.
Can only imagine this will be positive, look forward to seeing you report back

 

I did it:eek:
The therapist was fantastic with me. Except now she's putting the pressure on for me to come out to a friend soon. She knows I'll leave it for ages otherwise. Guess she's pretty much decided I'm gay though I never said it. Honestly I guess I am, it was and is just too hard to accept. Anyways I'm glad I did this. I feel really great actually.

 

Just had to pop in here and say congratulations - you made it!

(*hug*)

EDIT: Apparently you have to actually select an emoticon instead of typing it out...

 

I don't think there's any reason to stress! I would just take all of the anxiety and just . . . let it go. :icon_wink

*crickets*

ANYWAY, I think the email was great, and I think that you're taking a great first step. And as for the doubting thoughts, I'm with you there! I came out of the closet to myself two years ago, and I had a lot of moments of "I'm not attracted to ladies . . .". So clearly it's not THAT uncommon; it's just an aspect of questioning.

Anyways, just stay positive, because for the first time in forever, you can escape the storm inside of me! I mean, uh, you! *sweats nervously*

 

Thanks guys
Yeah you definitely will be nervous, but think you'll come out of it feeling a lot better.
I'm still a bit lost and scared but I seriously haven't stopped smiling since the appointment.
Hope you feel the same way.

 

I remember doing that. It's NERVE-WRACKING at the time, but withing a few days I was feeling better than I had in years ^_^