So I wondered if anyone else did what I tend to do. Like I really can't stand the awkward " I have to tell you something.... I'm gay" thing, so I just generally tend to act as if I'm already out, assuming that being gay is as normal and acceptable as being straight, and say things like: " God, she's hella cute!" " Omg, dude, did you see that ass?" " I got such a huge crush on that chick it's ridiculous" " *insertfemalecelebrityhere* is absolutely hot, don't you think?" " I really want my future wife to be..." etc. So far I've generally gotten positive to neutral reactions doing that, and it feels less artifical and weird than regular coming out conversations. So whenever I meet someone I just talk about girls the way a straight girl would talk about guys.... and that usually settles the coming out thing. Anyone else?
Sounds good, I'm doing a similar thing on Facebook no big update just liking sharing things that I like.. I have told the important people in my life though.
Seems like a great idea. When you do the whole "I have to tell you something" thing, it tends to make people assume that it's a big, negative thing that you aren't entirely sure about. If you just start acting like yourself, well, people will generally realize that's just you and they won't bother questioning.
i do the same thing, last time i used the term " i have to tell you something", someone thought i done something horribly wrong like murder =P now i just use my sarcasm to come out the closet, and people will never know if i'm actually serious or not.
I do this too! Using the sarcasm and especially making comments about hot celebs... it gives them a hint that I'm gay and saves me from having to have the big awkward conversation.
I've used that method before (on the internet) and I got the "Wait, I thought you were a guy?" response, to which I replied, "I am," and they said, "Ohhh... But yeah, this is a great way to come out. I understand sympathize with those who have to sit someone down, but this is another awesome technique. Straight people don't have to hide their orientation, so why should we? ... (besides the obvious)
That is pretty much how I've always handled it. I'm just myself and people figure it out. The only "we need to talk" coming out I've ever done is to my parents and I've been out for 20 years.
