This may sound attention-seeking or whatever, but I'm really curious to see if I'm the only one who feels like this. So I came out to another of my friends today, he was fine and everything, but I always get the feeling people are afraid to ask questions and don't want to make a big deal of it. I would sort of like it if they did really, I don't know if that's a general thing or me being stupid. It's not that my friends aren't supportive I'd just like to be able to vent a bit more, make sense?
Yeah it does make sense. Actually after I came out through facebook at the beginning of this month after receiving support messages, people altogether stop asking about it. I don't believe is us trying to look for attention, but after hiding something for so long we would actually like to talk about it more. So no it is not just you, I'm sure more people actually feel like this.
I'm glad someone else feels the same way! It was also the first time I'd come out in person, do I sort of had high expectations which weren't really met...
I feel the same exact way, Rory, and it's something I'm struggling with. It is something I feel like I really need to talk more about with my friends, but it's difficult to bring up and I kind of don't know where to start. I've felt that some of my friends seem afraid that they'll offend me - which to me seems like the most ridiculous idea. They are my friends! I just told them my deepest darkest secret! How could they possibly offend me? On top of that I have a hard time bringing up my feelings and never feel like unloading my problems on others. And sometimes some pointed questioning would go a long way. If others have had success with this I'd love to hear it. Nice topic!
Yeah, I completely understand. After researching sexuality for so long, and discovering all of the fascinating nuances of it, I definitely want to have in depth conversations about it with my friends. But people just don't seem to want to ask questions, they seem to tip-toe around the subject. I think a big part of this is that society has made sexuality a taboo subject for most people. (I wish it wasn't.) And when I do get the opportunity to talk about it with people, I wonder if I'm annoying them. I have so much to say about the subject, and I think I bore them when I turn the conversation into me rambling on and on about the beautiful complexities of sexuality. My advice here, which I will try to follow, would be to ask them questions to try to relate it to them, and encourage them to ask questions. Also @roryoswinpond, awesome username :icon_wink
