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relationship advice

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by BitterEdge, Aug 27, 2008.

  1. BitterEdge

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    As some of you remember I have started seeing a guy I met online and things became a little more friendly if I may say than just friendship. I don't know if you can call what we are doing a relationship and need some advice about how to find out if its more than a friends with benefits type of scenario.

    I'm going away for 4 months and really really like him, what should I do?
     
  2. Lexington

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    Meaning what, exactly? Do you want to know if he has "feelings" for you? Do you have "feelings" for him?

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  3. BitterEdge

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    I do have feelings for him and I don't know if he does, I know he likes me physically but I don't know I am so new to this that I don't know what I'm supposed to be doing as far as relationship stuff is concerned. I also don't want to be just some sexual tool.
     
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    Then you ask. "I've started developing some feelings for you. I'd really like this to be a full-on relationship. Is this something you're interested in?"

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  5. BitterEdge

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    Thanks Lex. I know the question was a little childish to ask but this is seriously the first person that I have fallen for.
     
  6. Jim1454

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    It's not a simple or childish question...

    But when you are able to step back from the situation you're in and look at it with the years of wisdom that Lex possesses (as do I?) you see more easily that honesty is the best way to approach these things.
     
  7. BitterEdge

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    He just wants to remain friends since I'm going away to college...I feel like my hearts been broken. He is trying to avoid me now before we leave.
     
  8. BitterEdge

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    I should add I think he was just using me for his sexual enjoyment. For some reason in the back of my head I knew this...but I hate being used and falling in love with some who obviously didn't want what I wanted out of our time together.
     
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    Yeah listen to these guys.
    They have PLENTY years of wisdom. ;p
     
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    Don't beat yourself up over this. It's REALLY easy to fall for the 'first' guy that you allow yourself to be close with. YOU feel like you've opened yourself up to him in a way you've never done with anyone else before. Where as HE might not feel anything very special. It's natural. Chalk it up to experience, and know that next time you need to move a little slower.

    Good luck as you move away to school. Another big change.
     
  11. BitterEdge

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    Thanks Jim. It's just odd for me because I thought we had something...I didn't want to be someone's whore. But I guess you live and learn.