MY DAD SAID HE'D GO TO PRIDE WITH ME!! This is a really big deal for me. I always knew my dad is WAY more accepting than my mother, and I'd planned to come out to him before I come out to her in any case. But this evening he was a bit sad because he was remembering a friend of his who died last year, who made quite a few LGBT-themed films, and he said he wished he could do something to help contribute to what his friend really wanted to bring into the world - acceptance of everyone. So there's a Pride walk this sunday (it'll be my first, they aren't common here at all really) and I was planning to sneak out and go but when he was talking about his friend, I just slipped out that there was a Pride walk on sunday. And he said he'd go with me! This is a huge thing for me, and I'm considering coming out to him that day. I might, or I might not, I still don't know, but it's definitely a possibility. Do you think I should? And how could I do it? These aren't things we generally discuss because my mother thinks it's indecent and impolite to mention 'these things'. But when my dad asked her if she wanted to go to Pride too she said no, as though it was a ridiculous thing and he wasn't serious, so he passed it off as a joke. So she won't be there, which is good for me. I'm quite sure he'd accept it, I'm just really nervous about actually doing it. Any advice?
Girl, you should DEFINITELY tell him if hes very accepting and actually wants to go with you, lol sorry dont really know how you could tell him other than just well tell him, sorry not gonna with this
I think it would be a great idea to tell him that day!! Also, you know he'll be accepting which is great. As for your mom, since she probably won't be accepting, maybe you should ask your dad to not tell your mom. Or you could have your dad talk to your mom about it and have him teach her what she should know. If you don't think that will work, just tell your dad on the day of the pride walk and ask him to not tell mom. He seems very nice and I'm sure he'll understand. You could just wait till you're financially independent to tell your mom. Good luck telling your dad!! I believe in you and you can do it!! (*hug*)
I agree with the others. It's a pretty good opportunity to come out to him, and like person57 said, if you're uncomfortable with your mom knowing, just request that he keep it secret for now. I wish you good luck!
That's a very good idea, and it's awesome that your dad is so openly supportive. I can't imagine he wouldn't be supportive of you when you tell him. As for how you do it - everyone sort of has their own way of handling things. Some people are direct, some not so direct, etc. I would wait for a time that you're both not talking about something, just standing or walking, and then just say, "Dad, can I talk to you about something pretty important to me?" Then just say that you know you're lesbian. After you two talk a bit, you can continue on with, "How should I tell mom? Should I even tell her?" That's how I'd handle it, but I'm pretty direct. Let us know what you're thinking. Good luck!
I'm sure I won't need to tell him to keep it a secret but I will anyway. Thanks a lot, everyone! I feel more confident about it now
Good luck again!! I know I've said it before but I believe in you and I know you can do it!! (*hug*) Will you keep us updated?
That is amazing! I wish my dad were that accepting! If you know he'll be fine with it, just do it! Don't waste such a good opportunity! Good luck
I can't think of a better time and better place. I think it would be a missed opportunity to not tell him. As for how to tell him... it's really up to you. There are no right or wrong words, but I think it's best to make the decision and say it in a few short words, rather than build up to it with a long conversation. Something like: "While we are here today, I'd like to tell you..." I'm sure it will go well, but please let us know
