No# 1 Tip for Coming Out

#1 always make sure that you trust the person your telling

 

#1 Anticipate the other person's reaction, but don't assume anything. People surprise you, for better and for worse.

 

If you can, say it in the first sentence.

Long preambles just start freaking out the people you are telling this do. Say it clearly and simply, then, once that is out of the way, you can relax and deal with the reactions calmly.

 

Bribe them with baked goods. Get the dopamine flowing.

(I'm just kidding...although that might not be such a bad idea!).

 

That makes me think of the baby cakes people make these days. When you cut into the cake, the inside is blue or pink to announce if it is a boy or a girl. You should make a cake that is rainbow inside to announce it for you. I mean who doesn't love cake?

My biggest piece of advice is don't wait for the perfect moment. It rarely if ever comes. Just get it out there.

 

Do it young. Don't wait if you're sure of your identity. Years wasted on worrying about my sexual orientation are my biggest regret. I told my mum I knew from a young age and she was so disappointed that I couldn't have told her earlier in my teens.

 

be sure that you are ready.

 

#1 Be sure about your orientation.

 

It helps me to remember that their response is not about me. They have their own experiences and beliefs about gay people that they are dealing with, positive or negative. I try to stay focused on my own reasons for sharing this with them.it is incredibly personal, but it helps not to take the reactions personally.

 

Tell them only if you're read to face the possibly bad consequences.

 

Be yourself, always

 

Say "I have to tell you something" first.

 

I love this idea! I would never have the courage to do that though

 

Be sure you are physically safe in the setting if things go south.

 

Ha this, commit yourself to saying without actually saying, then you pretty much have to! Also it shows the person you're coming out to that it's sort of a big deal for to tell them, if you want to give them that impression.

 

be 100% sure you can trust that person. if even the smallest amount of doubt exists, dont do it

 

Don't apologise at all, or even suggest that you've done anything wrong.

 

Explain how you feel and why.