1. This site uses cookies. By continuing to use this site, you are agreeing to our use of cookies. Learn More.

Coming out as a different orientation?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Nightdream, Jul 21, 2014.

  1. Nightdream

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jun 15, 2014
    Messages:
    401
    Likes Received:
    12
    Location:
    Brazil
    Gender:
    Other
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Some people
    I consider myself bi/pansexual, but I decided to come out as a lesbian because I don't want to have anything with the opposite sex even though I also believe myself to be panromantic. Is that a bad choice? I feel as if I'm hiding an important fact about myself.
     
  2. wolfxinxchains

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Mar 11, 2014
    Messages:
    73
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    New York, USA
    I think you should just do whatever you think is right. You could even come out as bi/pansexual but say you're more interested or attracted to one gender? It's up to you, just an idea.
     
  3. Nightdream

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jun 15, 2014
    Messages:
    401
    Likes Received:
    12
    Location:
    Brazil
    Gender:
    Other
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Some people
    I would, but I'm afraid of any guy thinking that I'm interested in them.
     
  4. Candace

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    May 8, 2013
    Messages:
    3,819
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Southeastern U.S.
    Gender:
    Male
    But what's the difference between that and a straight girl? Can't you just blatantly tell them that you're just not interested? I feel that you shouldn't have to apologize for coming out however you want to. They should apologize for assuming that you're interested in them, which is clearly not the case.

    Don't ever apologize for your orientation :slight_smile:.
     
  5. Nightdream

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jun 15, 2014
    Messages:
    401
    Likes Received:
    12
    Location:
    Brazil
    Gender:
    Other
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Some people
    Okay... Maybe it wouldn't be so bad doing that. It's just that I feel very uncomfortable with guys interested in me and I don't even know why since I never had any bad experience with guys before.
     
  6. Mirko

    Admin Team Advisor Full Member

    Joined:
    Apr 26, 2008
    Messages:
    18,870
    Likes Received:
    3,203
    Location:
    Northern Hemisphere
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    Hi there! As it was mentioned above, it really comes down to, as to how you feel. The only caution I would have is to decide on a label that could take away of how you actually feel. If you are not attracted to guys that's fine, but if there is a part of you that could be attracted to guys as well, you want to make sure that how identify includes that.

    If you are not interested in somebody, that's all you need to say. :slight_smile: