I think my Parents are Suspicious

If you're concerned about how they'll react, I would wait. You've only been out to yourself for three days. Give yourself time to continue to come to terms with it. Because when you tell your parents, it's going to rock their world even if they're accepting. So you need to be strong, confident, comfortable, and proud when you tell them.

 

I think what you should do is try to maybe wait a while and see what happens. You've been out to only yourself for three days. Take it easy. You have an incredibly long time to figure it all out. Try to make the best out of it. Think of it this way. You haven't gotten anyone pregnant. You don't deal or do drugs. You haven't gone to jail. You don't drive drunk. What I'm saying is that being bisexual is not a bad thing at all. Your parents may be shocked, but look at what other kids your age could be doing. Like the kind fellow above me stated, try to put a positive spin on this by saying "...but I didn't do any of that. I've been out of trouble, no one is pregnant, etc.". Be strong, confident, and show them that you're happy. Don't you think that your parents ultimately want that? Any loving parent would say yes.

 

My family is almost the same way, Im sure my parents know, and they have been acting really weird around me lately. My Mom has also been asking me why I have never dated any girls before and my Dad has been avoiding me. Im planning on just getting it over with and coming out to them. I feel that now they might except it a little better after knowing themselves. This is what Im doing though, don't come out until you feel ready. Im sure my parents have known for about 6 months and I think Im ready. If I were you i would give myself more time for personal acceptance, only tell when you are 100% ready. Good Luck!!!

 

I think at least my mother suspects something like that. Once a (girl)friend called me on the phone frequently and my mother asked me if she was my gf and I almost couldn't get her to believe me that she was just a regular friend, that she's in fact married. My mom looked as me as if I was lying. And on another occasion, there was a TV program about gay marriage and my mother said to me, remember I will love you forever, no matter what. I felt so uncomfortable because at that time, I was still heavily in denial. I'm still not sure whether I'm bisexual or gay but back then, I was convinced I was asexual. I think she suspects me being not-straight but would rather have me be straight.

And like you, I have one older brother but he has no positive dating experience to offer them. And I thought I'd be the "normal" one, and my parents probably think that, too.

Anyway, I won't come out until I'm at least 99% sure of it, it depends on what will happen next. Whatever or whoever comes my way, you know.

 

I've been 'out to myself' for a few years not (but not to anyone else)
As far as I know my father doesn't suspect anything
I know forsure that my mother suspects something.
She knows I "have nothing against gay people", and that I basically support gay marriage.
she ofcourse knows I've never had a girlfriend even been on a date...
but I've also made plenty of "stay single forever" comments/statements and also same type of things about me never dating.

Earlier this year (PrideFest weekend) she made some comment to me along the line of:
"i hope you don't plan to waste the whole weekend downtown with all those divergent people"
...I gave some sorta 'no' answer...which in theory was true since while I certainly was going to go to it, I had too much to do to 'waste' all of either day in the city...plus there was alittle family get-together/dinner on the sunday.
Whether she knows or not, I actually went to the city where "all those divergent people" were, I have no idea. I certainly kept quiet about it (nothing was said from her end either). so to me thats good.
I sorta hate the fact that if it came right down to things I'd have to lie...

 

Yeah, I've been out to myself for a few years, but not to anyone else, though I'm pretty sure they know. I'm convinced my brother knows though because he always asks me if I think that certain girls or hot, or asks if I think they're attractive, so yeah. I'd say my whole family is suspicious actually, but none of them say anything, thank god!

 

Your parents might simply be reacting to your abnormal behavior. odds are, if they suspect, it is just as awkward for them as it is for you. Most parents (even the accepting ones), wouldn't want to ask their non-gay child if they are gay and have the child react negatively to that. So in their case, the odds of them keeping it to themselves is very likely.

My mom said she knew long before I told them. She couldn't put her finger on it, but somehow knew. I never dated girls either which was a giveaway.. But nothing is for sure. As for your siblings, everyone matures and grows into that "dating phase" at different times. I have a younger brother that has lots of GFs, but hasn't dated anyone that I am aware of. My other brother who dated several girls turned out to be gay (or Bi maybe...he hasn't old us)..

3 days is a very short time. Give yourself time to come to terms with it. When you tell them, there will likely be lots of questions. And you should be prepared with more than "I don't know". And that all takes time...

 

Yes, maybe they are just reacting to your preoccupation with thoughts and are giving you space. Maybe you have been quieter recently and they can pick up on this sort of thing.

I wouldn't read too much in to things … and take your time so you are ready and it feels right.

 

If they decide to confront you, then just answer truthfully; that you are not yet sure of your sexual orientation.