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should I automatically trust my gay friends?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by freeapril, Jul 31, 2014.

  1. freeapril

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    Hi everyone!
    I am still in the questioning phase, not sure what my orientation is. I have lots of gay friends. I am not super close to them, but we are good friends. I have thought it would be nice to talk to one of them about this, but we are not super close friends so it is not like I would normally trust them with something so private. However, since they are gay, should I just assume I can trust them with this? I really do not want to be outed at all, since I am not sure what I am yet! What do you guys think? Should I automatically trust my gay friends not to out me because they are gay?
    I know ultimately trusting someone or not is my decision, I am just wondering what you guys think! Thanks!
     
  2. Yossarian

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    Automatically, no. Better to trust your closest friend first.
     
  3. RobinHood

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    Not every gay person is a good person. My answer is no. I think you should first try to know them better. Good luck! :slight_smile:
     
  4. freeapril

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    Thanks guys! :slight_smile: That was my first instinct, but then I wondered if I was being paranoid or something....Yeah, I will talk to my close friend first. I am seeing her in six weeks! Hopefully I will feel ready by then!