Homophobic / homohaters family

I'm so sorry you feel this way. :/ I understand you and care for you. They wouldn't say those things if they knew how it hurts you. Just give it some time, you'll learn how to deal with those problems. If you have a question, need help with anything, need an advice or just want to chat, feel free to post on my wall.

 

I'm very familiar with experiencing homophobia within family all too well. Both my immediate and extended family share very harsh views towards the LGBTQ+ community. Whenever the LGBTQ+ community is brought up nothing but derogatory language is said. My parents think it's "wrong" and defies the doctrine of God. Even when their religion is set aside they still think of us as "disgusting". When I came out to my mother she denied it and didn't talk to me for a few days but then later on she hugged me and said she loved me and acted as if I never came out... she still discusses how I'll get married and have children and such. They think it's a "choice" and the more I try to educate them on it the more they hate the community. So I feel your pain, I know it first hand. You feel trapped in an environment you can't escape. Well, on the bright side you're in school and eventually you can move out.

What helps me the most is posting on LGBTQ+ forums such as this one and communicating with other LGBTQ+ people. In addition to that I have several friends who are either LGBTQ+ or strong allies of it... they kept me strong through this madness. You may not have any LGBTQ+ friends but the community is here for each other. Oh, look up The Trevor Project. I'm not sure if you're familiar with them but they're a popular 24/7 hotline in the U.S. for depressed of suicidal LGBTQ+ youth.

You can make it through this, and once you leave that environment life will be a lot better than before. try and listen to some music as well... Sara Bareilles, Kelly Clarkson and Amanda Palmer are helping me a lot.

Be safe. (*hug*)

 

Do not hesitate to talk here, to me or any other member. We're all here from different places, I'm from a small country in Europe and I myself feel also alone in a homophobic environment. We're all very supporting here!

 

Before coming out make sure that you're sure about your sexuality. Are you bisexual, or gay? Make sure you don't make the mistake of saying something you might regret later.

Also are you sure that if you come out to your mom she won't disown you or something like that? If she is homophobic, the worst thing that can happen is that she kicks you out of the house. Make sure that if she is going to take it harshly, at least your well being won't be threaten because of it.