Just curious. How many people did you tell before you stopped caring? I know im near 20, most of which are friends online only, but im already losing track. Ive told my parents, but that didnt blow over well and i feel as though they suppressed it and have all but forgotten, which means I will have to tell them.... Again... In order to come out publically...
I told my parents--and then I just started living. Honestly, I only ever had two "sit down, there's something I need to tell you" conversations, then I just went about living completely uncensored. Everyone found out, everyone dealt with it--and finally I could breathe. It's been over twenty years...
I'm not quite there yet, but I'm close. I think once I've told my parents and just a couple more close friends then it really won't bother me much who else knows. I'm quite excited to be at that point tbh! That would be my close family of 5 plus about 6/7 of my best friends plus 6/7 people from my rugby club. About 20 I guess!
Once I told my ex-husband, kids and parents, I stopped caring. I tell people casually or will just say something in conversation. I had met with a couple of friends from school last week, one knew and one didn't. When we met I suggested a place in the gay area and we went there and I said things that made it clear I was gay. I was kind of secretly looking to see what his reaction was and he seemed a little surprised at first but then it was like I had always been gay. I'm tired of telling person by person. There are too many of them!