Helpp!

If your family disowned your cousin, I wouldn't rush into telling her. Who was it that disowned your cousin? The family as a whole, or one individual? You may be able to come out in a limited fashion, you know, only telling people that you're close to and you know will react well. Just don't rush into it before you're ready, it may not be the right time for you yet.

 

If the family as a whole agreed to disown him, then I wouldn't tell any of them. At 16, you can't risk being kicked out of the house for something like this. If your parents are going to pay for college, then I wouldn't tell them until after you've finished 4 years. If they aren't, then I'd tell them after you've finished high school and you're set up with a decent job. Basically, you don't want to tell them when you're still dependent on them if it's a big risk. Good luck either way.

 

Well, since you aren't worried about college money, then I wouldn't worry too much. Maybe wait until you're 18, or until you've left the house by your own free will, and then tell them. Until then, do you have any close friends you can tell, from your old school? It always helps to tell a couple people, rather than tell noone.

 

I wouldn't consider telling your family until you were independent so that way if something were to happen and you weren't accepted, you'd be finacially stable. That may not be what you wanted to hear but in that situation this is my best advice.

 

Its too bad your family turned away from your cousin. It may take you coming out for them to see the error of their ways.

 

I would hold off on telling your parents until your positive they wont react badly or they cant do anything negative to you. Even if they don't kick you out of the house there are other things they can do like take away phone and computer privileges. I'd say wait until your independent of them. I know thats probably not what you want to hear... If you feel anything like I Have and still do your probably bursting at the seams to tell them. I came out to my 4 closest friends then i came out at school. my senior year i was the only out gay male in the school. there were at least a dozen out females though. maybe you should try to find the gays in your new school, not necessarily to come out to them but having gay friends could be comforting at least.

 

Yeah, hold off telling the 'rents, but maybe come out to a few close friends? But really make sure they're not homophobic at all... if you have friends like that :/

 

yeah, most of my friends are girls too. Its good you've found some gay kids at school. hopefully you can become friends. I have a couple of homophobic friends too. One of my closest friends is actually a homophobic right-wing radical republican. We just avoid talking about politics and gay rights unless we have a mediator to keep us in line. debate can be brutal.

 

He does know I'm gay. If your friends are true they'll get past the fact your gay and like you for who you are. they probably wont lose the homophobia though. I'd try to gage how homophobic they are and then if you wanted to come out to one of them pick the one thats least homophobic or most likely to accept you. but also be wary of the fact that they may not keep your coming out a secret from other friends.

 

yeah, you definitely need to pick people you can trust. I was lucky all of my friends kept it a secret till I was ready to come out to everyone at school. now, even my close friends parents know I'm gay.