I need help coming out :(

oh well thats gonna be difficult but do you know their stance on the lgbt community?

 

Have you gone to a professional, a friend? Someone else who can help you and champion for you in your defense? I think that you should do that first. Remember that once you do that, you can't go back. I wish you the best of luck and please update us. I'm feeling for you :/.

 

First off, welcome to the community

Coming out, especially when still completely dependent on your family for support, can be a terrifying prospect. It is a decision that only YOU can make.

I am a college student, and it has been over the last year that I came to the conclusion that I am gay. I have absolutely no clue to what my parent's reactions will be, but I decided that I would prefer to tell them after I move back up to school for the year. It just reduces the stress of there being a total blow up and the double stress of living with that.

If you think you are in danger of being kicked out or mistreated by coming out, my advise would be to wait. If you hear them say something affirming, or even somewhat supportive of the LGBT movement, maybe take a chance.

Ultimately, it's totally up to you, and you should feel empowered that it is YOUR choice to make when YOU want to

 

Hey I recently came out to someone at work who I wasn't extremely close to but knew they would be supportive and I could trust them. I've found it to be really good as I've been able to tell them exactly how I feel about issues without having to worry about them telling my family or friends. That being said I've known her for about 4 years and it's taken me this long.
I personally wouldn't rush it but I also wish I was completely out.
If you ever want to chat about anything, I'm usually on daily.. so yeahhh lol

 

You're welcome. That's what I did and you'll be surprised as to how far they'll help you out. Think of them as a source of consolation and refuge. What are friends for, right?

 

Maybe, you should bring up the LGBT movement subject to your family. Something like "Mom, I saw a gay/lesbian couple on the street today." and look for her reaction. That's your best bet. I know little to nothing about Muslims, but I do know that they're not the biggest supporters of the LGBT movement, so be careful.

I wish you the best of luck!

Lots of love,
Andy

 

I wish you luck. You may not realize this but (I assume you come from Ćrna Gora, Bosna i Hercegovina or Shqiperia) you will probably be one of the pioneers of equality for all people, regardless of their sexuality and religion in your country. You may feel proud to be among the generation that will breach the old hate that unfortunately haunts the Balkans, and one day when you are old you may look out on the street, see a pair of happy lesbians walk down the street and tell yourself "I was there when we first started to open up to the world..."

 

Please probe your family first with methods that have been suggested in this thread.
Don't just come out without having a plan, and making sure you'll be safe.

It's sad that I have to say this, but please, your safety is more important than all, and I know some muslim families are extremely hostile towards LGBT, especially towards LGBT women, and since you're still underage, you're an especially easy target.

Only come out when you are 100% certain that you will not be harmed for being who you are.
I'm usually the first suggesting to be straightforward and bold, but this time around I'd suggest waiting and probing your family very carefully first.