school drama

Well, I think what she said was definitely out of line, no matter what you were arguing about. However, I bet she's mad about your comment too (even though you had a right to be angry).

If you want to make up with her, and you know you'll get into an argument when you talk, why not send her a letter? First, try to resolve what you were arguing about, and then I think it would be benefitial to tell her how her comment was really cruel. It wouldn't hurt to issue a little note about your comment too.

But, simply, if you want to make up, and not do it face-to-face, write her, e-mail her, send her a message on facebook etc etc.

 

your "friend" was completely out of line. and you were just a little out of line. I would take biisme's advice and write a letter. Resolve your argument. apologize for your comment and tell her how much her comment hurt you.

I know this is so mean but when i got to the part of what she said about you i was shocked and appalled but when i got to your reaction and what you said back I actually giggled a little. It reminds me of a friend of mine and how she would have responded.

 

Don't mention her comment when u apologize. That only makes it worse. TRUST ME! Noone likes to be told they are wrong, especially when they are.
Just apologize for what you said and leave it at that. She will do the rest.

 

Let her come to you to apologize or whatever (unless you were the one who started the argument). If you guys have been good friends for quite a while, try to patch it up, if not, just forget about it and her and move on. A real friend to me wouldn't say something like that even in anger. No matter which one you choose, wait. You or her may still be thinking of the argument and end up hurting each other all over again.

 

I dont think that you should explicitly put this in as you didnt say this directly and it may make it sound worse!

The rest of the letter is ok

The last bit about the Indianapolis motor speedway is quite witty, made me giggle, but you may want to wait until shes calmed down a bit!!

 

how can she lose her virginity to a road?

 

I wouldn't have bothered with the letter. Anyone who suggests you go cut yourself is not a real friend, even if it's done in anger. Some things once said cannot be taken back, and her personal attack on you at that emotional level is in my mind unforgivable.
See what she says. If she regrets saying it, then maybe you should talk to her. That's the extent of action you should take on this matter.

 

i know what a field trip is...it was just your phrasing confused me aha

 

i tell me friend she should start again and stop complaining to me...

xD she knows i love hr really though

 

what started all this if you dont mind me asking

 

Ever occur to you that she has a big problem and may need help?

 

Did you argue in a group of people? Did you really make her look like 'some cheap slut', or is she exagerating?
Because if what you said to her was in a group, it is a lot worse than if it were in private. Although I don't believe it compares to what she said to you.

 

She presumably didn't call you a cutting emo faggot out of the blue. Something led up to that to piss her off. I'm sure you don't think what you said to her was any big deal, of course, but then again, she probably didn't think what she said to you was any big deal, either.

And then you send her an "apology". Which to me reads as "Sorry I implied you were a slut, even though you obviously are one. There - now it's your turn to apologize to me."

And gee, she didn't take it well. How about that.

A couple things to take away from this.

* The proper response to somebody calling you something isn't to go through a mental list to find a proper rejoinder. Life isn't a "snap" contest. People will say things in the heat of the moment that they don't mean. Had you risen above, you wouldn't have had to apologize.

* Apologies aren't conditional. Your e-mail made it very clear that you WEREN'T sorry for what you said, and were simply angling for an apology from her. A true apology would've simply said "I said some horrible things about you in heat of the moment, and I really shouldn't've. I'm sorry."

It's up to you what you want to do with this.

Lex