So, me and my best friend, have become very close in the last couple months. At one point a year ago, we were kind of into each other, but things died down and we both went different ways. But like I said, we've become good friends as of late. Bestt friends. We've told each other everything. He told me about problems with his BF. I told him about all my hook ups. ;x And yesterday he broke up with his Bf. we we're talking and he said he wanted to tell me the story about why they broke up in person, because he had something important to tell me. Since we've been close, I considered that he might be feeling something again, and may have broke up with his bf for me. So today, when I told him to spill and tell me why. There were numerous problems, we fight, his friends don't like me.... and not, "And I have feelings for you" but "we fight, his friends don't like me, the sex is dwindling..... and I'm HIV positive." I was shocked. then cried. then tried to be normal. I just got home and I'm back to thinking about it. I'm shocked. I'm scared. I don't know what I am. I don't think i want advice like, "Try to understand" "It's hard for him to" "Sorry to hear that". I just idk. talk to me.
Omg.. So did his ex give him HIV and dumped him in guilt? Or is your friend a carrier of the disease and the boyfriend dumped because of that? I think I wanna cry now..
That is tough news to hear. All you can do is be supportive of your friend and let him know you are there for him. You need support too so I hope you can find that here at EC. (*hug*)
Knowledge is power. If you don't know much about HIV, go online and learn. What specifically are you scared of? Are you scared of a friend having HIV? Are you scared that you might catch it? Are you scared you might have already caught it - maybe not from him, but from someone else? I have a couple friends who are HIV+. They're just friends. One I didn't even know about until recently. They keep living their lives, they're remaining healthy, and making damn sure the disease doesn't carry forth from them. And that's pretty much all they can do. Lex
I'm scared for him. I mean, I know it can be prevented, but death could be right around the corner from him. And no, he didn't give it to his partner. I'm pretty sure he didn't give it to anyone. he's generally a pretty safe person. but he had a bf a while back who he use to bareback with. and the bf was a loser pothead who slept around without condoms. They broke up because the romanticism wasn't there. basically because his bf was turned off by the whole HIV thing. the BF has one effing nut btw. way to be a hypocrit if you ask me. ;x I know about HIV. It was just a lot to take in. I appreciate the advice and support though.
I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. But he probably really needs a friend right now, so make sure you give him lots of hugs! (*hug*)
Most likely death is not around the corner. People can live with HIV for a very long time now if they take care of themselves. I totally agree with Lex that knowledge is power. Do some reading. It will help you deal with things a whole lot better.
All I can say is I'm sorry and that having you as a supportive friend can help him a lot right now (I know you knew this already).
