I am planning on posting this on my facebook/myspace as my transgender coming out. Let me know-- thumbs up or thumbs down?? "Sometimes, for no specific reason, I feel like I’m going to fall apart crying. Most days I don’t even want to wake up, I just want to crawl up in a ball and sleep forever. Because as soon as I wake up, I realize that I wasn’t born male. I was born in the wrong body. God made a horrible mistake that he can’t take back. I feel mixed up, in-between, and weird. When I look in the mirror, I see someone, but I don’t really know who. When I’m alone in my dark room, I feel safe. No one is looking at me, I’m not looking at me. I am safe in my bed. As soon as I wake up in the morning, I’m not safe anymore; I have to get dressed, and look at my body, and eat breakfast, and do things that normal people do. I have to pretend that I’m normal. I’m not normal, in fact I’m far from it. I’m transgender, a boy stuck in a girl’s body. When people see me, they see a girl-- they are so wrong. If you get right down to it, I identify as transgender. I feel as though inside, I am not a girl, but a boy. I identify with most aspects of the male gender and very few of the female gender. I want to start going by a male name, instead of Maile. Since I have been at Simon's Rock, I have going by Miles, and people have been using male pronouns. So seriously, please use male pronouns when speaking about me. I hope that you will all try to understand what I am going through and what I am feeling. This was not a conscious decision or a hasty one. I have been questioning my gender identity for a few years now, and I finally want to be seen as the boy I feel like inside. But also don't hesitate to ask me questions- I'd rather you be informed than misinformed. And the reason that I am sharing this with all of you is because I love you, and I do care about you all. I hope this doesn't change my relationship with any of you, except for make it stronger. Thanks for reading this! I am really glad that this is not longer a secret I am keeping to myself. -Miles"
I really like it. I think it gets the point across really well, in a factual, heartfelt, and non-pushy manner. Lex
Well thought out and I don't see why anyone should have a problem with what you've written. Good luck!!
Thats really cool, you haven't over-done the subject if you know what i mean? like, you are not rubbing the way you feel about your gender identity in their faces, you are just informing them, type of thing. I don't see how this could cause any problems from the way you've written, it clearly explains how you feel, and i think you should go ahead and post it. Good luck, i really hope things go well for you. You've got to do what's right for you, and we are all proud of you for taking this step (*hug*) PM me if you want to talk about anything, i am here if you want to rant, or chat or anything. And well done again. Marie xX
Well, I posted it last night and I got about 10 messages, basically all saying that they loved me and they support me. One guy who I worked with and is quite a bit older than me asked if I wished I had a penis, and my best friend of five years told me it'd be hard to adjust to the name change and he didn't know if he could do it ever. But I told him that as long as he used male pronouns that's be fine. (!) So basically I'm totally amazingly happy :eusa_danc
