I am surrounded by straight friends and feeling isolated. Where I live there is very little LGBT adult support and not nearly enough opportunities to make friends. Is there anyone out here willing to make friends with me? I am the only lesbian in my entire circle of friends and although they try to be supportive, there is a dimension they just don't get. I can't even joke with them :icon_sad: I am also trying to find a way to come out to my HIGHLY religious family. My brother freaked out when I mentioned thinking of getting a tattoo, I can't even imagine his reaction to "I'm gay."
I'll be your friend! We're all here to help at EC. The dimension that your friends don't get is thoroughly covered here . You can talk to me anytime. Has your family ever voiced a dislike of gays? I know some highly religious people who, believe it or not, are quite accepting.
I'll be friends. I love making new friends! I hope we can help you overcome a lot of the issues you're facing. So, since we're now friends, how do you feel about breaking the 221Eth wall?
My father in conversation telling me what was and what was not acceptable for my living arrangements, (ex husband threw me out) stated that there would be no men in my apartment and I said I wanted nothing to do with men anyway, and he concluded with or women with a very disgusted tone. I didn't exactly come out but I hinted and they have never liked how I am anyway. I am the black sheep religion or otherwise. I feel a drive to tell them the truth because I HATE living this lie. This lie has cost me three marriages and four children( also a blessing not just a loss, I love my kids.) I pretended to be straight because it was what they wanted. I resent that. I want to be able to be myself fully without hiding 95% of me. YAY friends!!!! ^_^
Do you think they are capable of handling it? I'm not certain what your conditions are right now, but are you in a position where you could be kicked out? Also, I would test the waters, metaphorically. Like ask your dad what he thinks about a new person who has come out as gay or lesbian etc. What is his reaction?
I am employed and capable of standing on my own without financial support, I also have my own apartment where I live alone since my ex has the kids.
OK. So you're not in any real danger, which is good As is said, test the waters, and see how they'll take it.
Thank you! I was going to be a coward and send them a letter... Basically tell them and then give them time to process but it seems a very bad way to do so. My father is a very dominant type man who has the attitude my way or the high way
Sending a letter isn't cowardly at all! Some people feel better expressing their feeling when it's written down, that's all. It's really up to you how you do it, do it whichever way you find best.
Absolutely!! Friends are always welcome!! ^_^ ---------- Post added 19th Aug 2014 at 10:59 AM ---------- I think I am going to try to come out with my Mom today, I am not sure how it will go but I can hope for the best...
After redrafting it four times...I hit the send button and its now in their hands. I'm a little nervous but it is done. Now no matter the out come I am free to be myself
I don't think it has sunk in what I have done yet and I am a little worried of the consequences. But it is a weight off my shoulders too.
I'm sure it'll be fine. Unless your parents are the "my religion is my LIFE" kind of people, the fact that you are their daughter and that they love you should be enough to alleviate anything more serious than a bit of confusion or awkwardness. It's a great feeling, to have all that weight gone. Good on you. ---------- Post added 20th Aug 2014 at 02:05 PM ---------- If I may, a little play on your name: You may be an island of 1, but the rest of us and our Islands are within but an arms reach. We're always here, ready to help.
Hi there, hope things turn out well with your family. I dread the day I'll tell mine, but its a good ways down the road for now. I'm curious, whereabouts do you live? I live in Washington State in the USA, thought it'd be cool if by some small world chance we lived near eachother, as I don't have any gay or lesbian friends outside the net. Of course its a long shot.
Thank you everyone, it went as I expected- "we love you and you are welcome as long as you pretend to be "normal". then they threw religion at me. No acceptance at all. They want to ignore it. NatWheeled I live in Utah for now. But I would be happy to be your friend here for now, I'm somewhat in the same boat. I don't have any lgbt friends either which is why its soo lonely.
