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Being gay at school???

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by gaynerd64, Aug 24, 2014.

  1. gaynerd64

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    School resumes tomorrow and I am looking for advice on being gay at school. I'm only out to my parents (WHO :***: REFUSE TO ACCEPT) but my classmates ask me if I'm gay all the time simply because I rarely show any attraction to girls. How should I react to their questions? Should I lie?
     
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    Consider your community. Is it homophobic? Is it safe for you to come out? If so, go ahead. If you're going to get beat up, don't.

    But, ultimately, it's your choice. Just realize that if you're openly LGBT nowadays, even if people are secretly supportive, sadly, almost no one will speak up, and you will probably get bullied.

    Good luck, and please stay safe. (*hug*)

    (as a side note, I'm thinking about being openly LGBT too, but... idk)
     
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    I concur with Nychthemeron.
    If you're sure that it will be safe, go for it.

    Try to be honest as much as you safely can though. Lying often leads to more problems (e.g. inner turmoil).

    Peace! (*hug*)
     
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    I agree with everyone. If you feel it is safe, do it! (!)

    BTW is it just that your parents still do not believe you, or have they become openly hostile ??
     
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    My only advice is that if you do come out at school, be proud about it.
     
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    People only tend to bully gay/lesbian people if they seem to be ashamed of it, because they've found a flaw in you. If you're proud of it, it can't be a flaw. The way I look at it is its like a name. You were born with it, and whether or not you like it you have it. It's who you are, and although your name makes you different to others it's just a part of who you are so you may as well take pride in it. And all of those things apply to sexuality as well.

    It's best to come out to everyone, and not hide it at all, because if it gets around through rumours to people you were trying to hide it from that may also turn out badly. Especially if you lied about it to them.

    Good luck :slight_smile: xXx
     
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    There was quite a few people at my high school who came out and for the first few days everyone made a big fuss and was talking about it but after a week everyone had just moved on, got over it and accepted it.
     
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    I wouldn't be worried if people ask if your/call you gay as where I am it's just used as a derogatory term, and if you do decide to tell people make sure you will have people that don't mind because as I'm sure I don't need to tell you people our age are colossal :***: