You guys really helped me on my last forum, thanks! I decided I'm ready to come out. Being in the closet and hiding who I am caused my depression, and I have anxiety that people will find out, so I may as we'll just do it. But who to come out to...... 1. My parents Pros: I know they're liberal and pro lgbtq They're super supportive and nice Cons: coming out to them scares me most They tend to gloss over lgbtq topics I don't know how to approach them 2. Best friend one Pros: I've known her for ages I know she's pro lgbtq She's probably my closest friend She's a blabber mouth, and it would be so much easier if word just kinda leaked out Cons: she's a blabber mouth, so she might let it slip to my parents before I'm ready I don't want things to get awkward between us 3. Best friend 2 Pros: We've done a lot together She's pretty close Cons: I'm pretty sure she's pro lgbtq but I'm not sure. I'm afraid it'll get awkward between us I kinda have a little crush on her 4: Gay friend Pros: He'll understand He won't tell anybody He's fabulous Cons: We're not super close I don't know how to talk to him privately HELP! I want to come out sometime after Labor Day vacation ---------- Post added 27th Aug 2014 at 11:58 PM ---------- Oh, and should I come out as pansexual or bisexual, since bisexual is a term everyone knows?
Coming out to best friend 1 would probably easiest, and it's always good to first come out to someone who you know will be accepting and not too difficult to come out to. If you tell her that it's important to you that she not let it slip to your parents, I'm sure she'll be able to keep it a secret. Definitely come out to your parents too. When I was in the closet, hiding it from my parents was the most stressful part, and I didn't feel like I could come out to anyone else in case somehow my parents found out. It's hard to work up the nerve to do it, but it sounds like your parents will be accepting, and it can be such a relief to not have to worry about them finding out. Good luck! I hope it all goes well
I think your gay friend might be easiest, because he will understand and maybe be able to help you with your friends and parents. Maybe best friend 1 next. You should come out as whatever label makes you comfortable, though pan may require a little explaining for most people. Good luck!
