Lately my parents have been very nitpicky about the choices I make. If I hear another person ask "did you get that in the guys or gals department?" in a disapproving voice I might snap. And in this moment, I'm feeling like i should just get this shit done with and come out. And- its not that I think my parents would necessarily react poorly to me coming out. But they sure as hell don't know anything about gender and might respond with confusion-ridden revolt. I don't know. And seeing as my gender doesn't really fall under the only two they know, it would take a lot of patience and explaining to get them to understand tl;dr How would/did you come out as, and explain being genderqueer in the least painful way possible?
Well, I would give some background first. I would explain what binary gender is, and why the concept is an entirely western one. I could cite things like the Albanian Sworn Virgins and the Indian hijra as examples of alternate gender expressions being tolerated in other cultures. Then I would say that I too am one of those other genders, and that is called being genderqueer or non-binary in english speaking countries. I would explain I have no real choice in the matter, and that there is nothing they can do to change me. To be fair, the only person I've actually explained that too is my mom. So far nobody else asked, and I figure I'll tell them when I start hormones.
