So...I came out to a couple more of my friends a couple of days ago, and both of them don't believe that I am really gay. They say things like "I know you, you wouldn't do that" and "You are meant to be with a girl, I can feel it." Truth be told, I have absolutely no sex drive towards girls. Towards men? Heck yes. What am I supposed to tell these 2 friends who don't believe me?
I don't have any way to show it...I am single and am not in a position where I can meet someone so easily. I'm out of school and working, and my coworkers are considerably older than me. Unless I join a dating website or anything, I'm not sure what to do about meeting a partner.
I'm going through the same thing both my friends think I'll be bi how someone in the future just because of how I look .:rolle: I've given up on trying to prove to them I'm lesbian so I'll just let them see for themselves.
And how do they show they are good friends? (i'm not saying they aren't, just trying to understand the situation.)
Welcome to my world haha. Well you certainly don't have to prove anything to them. You've told them and if they refuse to believe you, too bad. Don't stop being who you are and hopefully they'll eventually accept the truth. If it really frustrates you, explain to them that you know your identity better than they do.
We've been through a lot together and have really been a support for each other, one of them more so than the other. Let's call them K and A. K has always been nice and willing to listen to me and we had a lot of good talks about technology and what not. A has been a really awesome support for me and has helped me just as I have helped him through a lot of tough spots. We mean a lot to each other. I couldn't imagine losing either of them...
It's too bad people think it's even possible someone would "come out" with something other than the truth, as they know it. Why would someone put themselves through such a thing without having put a lot of hard thought into it? I believe you about your friends but I'm still baffled that anyone would think this way. You could try to explain how it took you a long time to be able to share this info and even longer to come to this conclusion and would like it if they could continue to be the good friends you've known them to be. Good luck.
Right, so you get why it would be hard for them? Have you asked them what they think about homosexuals?
Several of my friends didn't believe me. I left it at that, one I think was inlove with me because she started bargaining with me, "maybe you're bi..." I think she is still skeptical. I don't really need to prove it to anybody. I certainly am notgoing on web dating sites to prove it.
UPDATE: We've talked a little more and A is perfectly fine with it. In his opinion, he doesn't agree with homosexuality but he won't let it come between our friendship. We met up at youth group today and he helped me come out to one of the leaders so he could pray to me. Me and the leader will meet up later to discuss it a little further and do some Bible studies.
