How can I find someone to talk about coming out and meeting other gay guys?

I am gay and I accepted my sexuality when I was in high school. I grew up in a very homophobic country where the majority of the population is muslim. Me and my parents are NOT muslim but my parents are homophobic(more importantly not very familiar with homosexuality). I always hid my sexuality and it wasn't that hard as I am not a feminine guy.
I came to the US about 7 years ago but I am still on a student visa. I might or might not be able to get a green card and guarantee my permanent residency. I always had the fear to have to go back to the country I grew up(and I hate that country) and feared of revealing that I am gay. People might say come out when in the US and hide it when/if you have to go back. but it is really hard to hide it in 2014 when everything becomes public in seconds thanks to iphones etc..
I have never had any kind of sexual or romantic relationship with anyone in my life. I just turned 30 and I just completed my phd. US immigration laws are very strict and harsh and i don't know if i will be able to stay here. My whole life is full or misery and I don't know what to do.

 

I am not a student anymore. I work in a big company as a scientist. I am still on a student visa though. I have an employment authorization that allows me to stay on student visa for the next ~1-2 years. I found some places online but they look like therapy places etc... I don't need a therapy. I already accepted who I am but I don't know how to interact with other gays?

 

Thanks a lot for your suggestions. But let me tell you where I live. A gay neighborhood doesn't exist and the closest gay bar is 100 miles away. There is no gay supportive environment in or around here.

 

I wish it was that easy. Anyone who wants to naturalize as a US citizen(and in order to take the citizenship test)must live in the US for 5 years after gaining permanent resident status aka green card. I don't even have a green card. I have been living in the US more than 7 YEARS but they count those years because I was on a non-immigrant visa. Getting a green card is extremely hard. I have a PhD and I work as a scientist in a fortune500 company and it still depends on pure luck because the annual quote is so limited that they apply a lottery to select the employment based visa holders. :tears:

 

Thanks VERY MUCH. I really appreciate it. I don't want to make this thread with the immigration discussions. I know every single detail about the immigration laws. I am even more experienced than some lawyers as I process and submit all of my visa and employment authorization documents myself. The law is very strict for people who follow the law like me. Anyways I brought the immigration to this thread because that is one of the biggest reason why i don't feel secure and postponed coming out for many years. But I feel like my life has been ruined. I didn't have problem when I admitted my sexual orientation to myself but I was always afraid of the risk of going back to the country I was born.

 

There is no law against gays. But the government or the laws don't protect gays too. For example you might get fired or kicked out of your apartment just because you are gay and no one or no law would protect you. It is pretty much like in rural deep south in 50s

 

I hated so much and I would become suicidal if I have to go back.
I spent almost all of my adult life out of that country and I have been in the US so long that I feel like I never lived there. But that's the only citizenship I have. I fell like American even though I have a foreign accent.

 

Thanks for the advice. I already thought about it but denial rates are much higher then it used to be. My chances are higher if I try extraordinary scientist path but it will take too long. In anyway I didn't start this thread to bring my immigration status to EC FORUM but it is a very important detail about me(suggestions and advises are greatly appreciated though) I am trying to meet other gay guys and don't know where to start.
Thanks again for your comment (*hug*)