My dads side of the family are very church oriented. The pastor decided to invite another church to service last sunday and this guy from the other church spoke. My dad completely freaked out and stopped going to church because they guy that spoke was gay. First, my dad has a lot of issues with people, hes even racist but he thinks black people cant be racist. All of our conversations are debates. I first started actually talking to my daad when I was 20, he was in jail during my whole childhood and teenage years. I never had a legit father figure in my life, all the men my mom dated were strange and I didnt like them. Anyway, this is what he said after the sermon, please forgive my wording. He said, "Why did pastor allow that F***** speak up there". This threw me off, I thought that being that my mom is bi, he was okay with it. But he hates it. So, this conversation was a debate. I asked him, "What if I was gay?", he said " You better fucking not be". It felt like a rock hit me. My grandmother on my dads side, hates when I wear jeans, she thinks girls should only wear skirts. I hate wearing skirts. Every time Im there, I feel so fake and it upsets me. Knowing their views on the subject, if I tell them, especially my dad, all hell would break loose. I thought to myself, "my world might actually come crumbling down".
Is your father abusive or just short tempered? Otherwise maybe try and find something you agree on. There is not much you can do to change his Mind and opinion on homosexuals and bisexuals. As for your grandmother, just we're jeans, it's not her choice as to what you wear. If she doesn't like what you wear than she needs to deal with that. I know it sounds harsh but you are 22 and don't need to follow her directions. As a Side note, I know you didn't talk about this but, if your mum is bisexual you could probably come out to her.