Is coming out drunk a bad idea?

If you have to ask if something's a good or bad idea to do when drunk, it's a pretty good bet that it's a bad idea. Write yourself a note, now, while you're drunk reminding you of wanting to do this. Reconsider when you are sober. Then do it. Or not.

 

Have a drink or two, but don't be drunk, then. It sounds like you expect to get a ration of shit from the brothers. Wouldn't it be better to have your wits about you?
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(As a side note, I often give my self a haircut after drinking, and I always regret that!)

 

Being drunk make us all more confident. I think it should be a good idea to drink maybe 1 glass before doing it. But of course they shouldn't notice otherwise won't take you too seriously.

 

If you want to tell them when you're sober, then it's not going to be a mistake to tell them when you're drunk, it's just easier.

Apart from my sisters all of my major coming outs have involved a lot of alcohol, they wouldn't have happened otherwise! ha

 

Wow, relax. Coming out to your brothers doesn't mean they'll give you a boyfriend on a silver platter. And you're only 19, you still have your whole life ahead of you. You should first focus on having your brothers accept that you're gay. Anyway, all I can say is try not to be (completely) drunk when you come out, it will just make things worse.

 

Actually, one of my friends came out to me while he was drunk, he said he could only build up the courage to do it while he was drunk. Which I found kind of funny of him at he time, it worked out for him though. I mean I would have accepted him either way but it worked for him I suppose. Do whatever feels right, I just wouldn't make being drunk first your go to, that's probably going to lead to other problems.... ^^;;

 

You already told your mom, so it is only your brothers you have to tell. If you need a few drinks to remove your inhibitions, I don't think that is a bad idea, assuming that you are not so drunk that you will not be in control of what you are saying or your anger, and that you actually are ready to tell them. Once they know, it will probably make more sense to them why you feel the way you do about LGBT equality, and maybe they will back off a bit on their rhetoric on these kinds of topics. Either way, you should still feel the relief of not having to keep your secret any more, and your mother apparently isn't going to do anything different, because she already knows.

 

Nope, I came out after I drank to have enough courage when I was 19.

Was still shaking like a leaf though.

 

When I came out to friends I was quite drunk but not so much that it was a problem, it sort of just 'came out'

When I told my dad I was very very drunk, fortunately he was too (after sharing a bottle of whisky at xmas lol) It went well and I also told my mum then too. It was fine, my only regret is that I was so wasted that If I'm honest I dont remember large bits of it, specially involving my mum. That is a regret.

My advice would be that if you feel you need alcohol to help you do it (and that's nothing to be ashamed of in my opinion) then try to do it at a time when everyone is drinking. I think coming steaming up to them while v drunk and saying it, it wont be taken in the the right way and you will regret it.

Good luck with your situation and remember...relax!

 

It may backfire if the person you are talking to it drunk too. They could overreact or not take you seriously. So one drink is OK I suppose, but don't come out while wasted, to wasted people.

And good luck btw!

 

I think it's a bad idea, because they may not take you seriously, and you should have a clear head while you do it. However, I think the main thing you should be concerned about is getting out of there as soon as possible. It shouldn't even matter if they know or not at this point, because if they all know, then it will probably just make matters worse for you. Your call though. Good luck.

 

If you want them to accept you, do not be angry. If you become angry you'll just make things a lot worse. In my opinion you feel pressure to come out because of their negative attitude, but perhaps you're not ready yet to come out based on your reaction. Trust me, when I came out to my family it was calm, and everything they said didn't affect me too much. Had I been angry, it would have just caused divide. Tell them you're gay in a relaxed manner.

 

You are yourself responsible for your actions and the outcomes, just telling my experiences...

there is something called nonviolent communication. Its like stating facts, ones own needs and ones own emotions. Not using hurtful language... which might trigger an emotional response...

This helped me staying out of exchangig reproaches, instead stating what I am and how I feel ...

It might take practice to do that...

 

I 'came out' to my flatmates when I was drunk a couple of years ago. They didn't care, but I honestly feel like I should have waited because I was not sure of my sexuality at the time (apart from knowing that I was attracted to girls) and what I know about my sexuality has changed since then.
That said, it may well be easier for me to say "hey actually I'm gay not bi" if it ever came up in conversation because they already know I like girls and they're not bothered by it. I'm not sure though, but in your case I would not recommend it, in fact in most cases I wouldn't.

 

i was always drunk when i came out to my friends or my mum
the very next day can be awkward but after a few days the issue subsidizes
and everyone is fine with it (depending on your friends and family ofc)
so i'd call it a semi-good idea

 

do not do it drunk , you should definitely be sober when you do this