Came out and no one took it well

wow ok that's quite serious have you or you parents contacted the school authorities because at least im my school/school system that would mean expulsion in my school we have policies about harassment due to sexual orientation if not expelled i would consider changing schools about you being gay/bi/other you are you and don't let bullies doubt yourself their just afraid of you because your different and that's great don't make any harsh decisions like leavening school and don't hate yourself because of what ever other people think of you because every human is special and great in their own way. hope this helps

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also what grade / age are you

 

I'm sorry that you were so horribly treated by a group of very ignorant children. What you did was brave and in the long run, I think you will be happy you came out, despite the hardships and bumps in the road.

I'm glad that the bullies were dealt with accordingly. I hope they are at home thinking about how what they did was wrong and why they are now in the situation they are in.

Also it's incredible that the popular guy you like likes you back. How adorable!! Good luck kiddo! I hope things only go uphill from here!

 

You and your parents should not fail to take them and their families to court and sue them for damages and for "pain and suffering" injuries. Any decent lawyer should be able to take the case and win you whatever assets they have.

 

Hi gm53

First of all welcome to EC.

I was shocked to hear how the bullies at your school treated you and hope the injuries you suffered are investigated by the police and that you make a full recovery. It’s also good to hear that your school has taken it very seriously, are they going to provide you with some sort of counselling to help get over this trauma because I’m sure you are going to need some. When I was 13 I witnessed a horrific fatal road accident but didn’t get counselling at the time and I still have problems with it 40 years later, so please talk to someone about counselling.

You don’t mention in your post if you were out to your parents before this happened, I imagine if not then it will have come out in their discussions with the school assuming the school know it’s a homophobic attack? In fact the police should be made aware that it was a homophobic attack. How have your parents reacted? If you were my son and you hadn’t come out before the attack then this attack would make me want to love you even more and would stand up and actively fight for LGBT rights.

I think the best thing the school can do once you’re better is start a Gay Straight Alliance if they don’t have one and they should enforce diversity lessons with immediate effect and if they don’t I think your parents could probably sue the school for failing to provide a duty of care. In fact they could perhaps sue the school anyway.

You asked what you should do once you’re better, well I can’t tell you that. If it was me I would come back fighting and lead a LGBT equality campaign in your school or even community assuming you don’t live under some repressive religious regime. You may be worried about other students finding out you’re gay/bi/questioning but the reality is because of the seriousness of the situation they will probably already know.

Hope I’ve given you some thoughts and you make a speedy recovery.

SGG

P.S. Coming out is a very brave thing to do, especially on Facebook, it shows great strength of character any you’re more of a man than the bullies will ever be, what you did takes great courage.

 

I'm really sorry that this happened to you. Welcome to EC, by the way, and I'm glad that you have some solace in this site and that we're able to help out in some way . I'm happy to hear that the bullies were punished for their actions, nevertheless. Have you talked to a guidance counselor? Maybe they can suggest ways and offer ways in order for you to have the safest and best learning experience possible. Just my two cents.

 

What kind of sick fuckers push a 14 yr old down staires! Id like to give them a "talking to"

 

i have to agree (maybe not the language but yeah) if i saw that happen in my school me and my friends would definitely do something yeah im really sorry that happened man don't really know much else to say but good luck....

 

I'm so sorry that happened! That's absolutely horrifying... I would encourage you and your parents to seek legal action against the bullies. If you or they were only a few years older, that would be an assault and they could face jail time. Kids are not stupid. The know what they are doing, and they need to learn how the real world works. In the real world, you don't just get a minor inconvenience for assaulting someone. But if nothing else, you gained a possible boyfriend so that's something right? Good luck on your relationship Hope you start feeling better soon. *Hugs

 

I'm so so sorry :c I'm glad those bullies won't get into a new school, it's the least they deserve. But please don't hate yourself because of them, I assume your parents know and support you and it seems like you have plenty of friends that also support you. People like thoes bullies are just assholes and will get what's coming to them

 

No prob man were here to help glad to see the bullies are getting taken care of I wish my crush would be like that but he's 100% straight and were in 2 complete difftent social groups anyway get better soon

 

Glad your doing better man this shit really botherd me. Feel free to msg me any time if you need someone to talk to! Im sure the same goes for like every member on this site. Everyone is really supportive

 

Roger that! Get well soon friend

 

I hope you get better soon! And congratulation for coming out on facebook ! It takes guts.

 

Welcome to EC! And I hope you get well soon. :;(∩´﹏`∩);:

Besides those bullies don't deserve no sympathy at the moment, not after injuring you. But I do hope your parents/guardians take action, that is intolerable.

Once more I hope you get well soon!

 

I really do hope you get well. Those jerks had no right to do that. But whats done is done and cannot be undone. Just don't let it affect you. As for the whole GSA thing its a very good idea but be prepared for some interference from the school board they aren't always the nicest. I know that the GSA at my school went through All Hell and Creation just to be founded. But i wish you the best of luck.