I met a guy online and we have been emailing and talking on the phone. Tonight we are going out to dinner. I am a little bit nervous, it will be my first date with a guy. Also we have not talked about if we are both out or not. I am not out at all except for here and at the PFLAG group I have been going to. If it comes out I will be honest about it. Any advise?
Why don't you give him a ring before you meet up so that you can ask him the questions which are preying on your mind, then at least you will be able to relax and have fun without worrying.
If you hit it off with him, it will probably be easy and feel comfortable asking what you want to know. Try not to worry and have fun!
I hope you have a great time! It might feel a little odd at first to be out with another man on a date, but the fact is that it's nobody else's business who you're out for dinner with. Just relax and enjoy each other's company. If you're really worried about seeing someone you know and what they might think, then just let him know when you first sit down that you'd like to be discrete on the chance there is someone there that you know - I'm sure he'll understand. You'll be able to relax more that way, and in the end have a better time. If you're enjoying his company, perhaps you'll want to grab a coffee after dinner and just go for a walk - and then you'll be able to talk about 'gay things' a little more openly. Good luck! Let us know how it goes!
Hi there! If the topic of whether you are out or not comes up just be honest with him and let him know. It shouldn't matter. Even if he is completely out, he should understand it. Try to relax, enjoy the evening with him and have fun. I second Jim's suggestion. If you like talking with him and you have a good time, grab a coffee or go for a walk after the dinner. I hope you have a great time. Good luck!
Thanks guys! I think sometimes I overthink stuff. I am going to just enjoy the company and see what happens. I can't wait. I will let you know what happens. Thanks again. (*hug*)
That’s great that you are going on a date. Just try to be yourself. It really is not much different from any dates you have had with women, except you can talk about guy stuff. The guys I went on dates with were all just regular guys, who happened to also be gay. I was also a bit nervous at first about seeing someone, and I talked about it with my date about that and it was never a problem. I went out on a date last week and saw someone from work at the concert. While I would have preferred not to see anyone from work, I have adopted the philosophy that I am not going to avoid doing something enjoyable because I might see someone. Just go and enjoy and see what happens. Good luck! Let us know how it goes.
Just talked to they guy that I was suppose to go out to dinner with. He had a long day and is tired. He said he did not feel like leaving his place. Then he asked to reschedule until Wednesday. We plan to talk Sunday night. I am a little disappointed because I was really looking to meeting with him.
He called me back tonight like he said he would. We talked for a few and rescheduled for Wednesday night. I can't wait to meet him.
