Coming out at age 5

That's interesting.

I can recall very clearly when I knew I liked boys in some way that different than just 'liking' them, and that was in first grade. I guess I was 7. I had this sort of 'crush' on my best friend, who was the fastest runner in our class. It's odd, but looking back, it all seems very clear and natural that I'd end up liking boys, which only grew stronger as I reached 12-13, when I started to worry what it would mean for my life. I never talked to anyone about it then, but your story reminds me of how young I was when I 'knew' of 'felt' what I still feel.

 

I feel weird now because I only started liking guys about a year or two ago...

 

You could always try reminding him Try asking him something like "remember that one time you were reading sleeping beauty to me when I was like 5?" and see what he says. Or something along those lines.

 

I've always liked boys as well, but then again, everyone sees me as female so it's not weird for them. :icon_bigg

 

At 5 admitting you like boys could be understandable because of male bonding with friends. Your Dad should realize that as you got older then you could more clearly define what you like.

 

What was the trigger?

Did you 'always' like girls before?

 

Well I sort of assumed I did, and I used to at least think I liked them and even used to masturbate to straight porn. There were a number of factors, one being that I watched some bisexual porn on a whim and actually liked the men more than the women, leading me to watch gay porn a few times and really enjoy it (I never watched much porn anyways) and I had a huge crush on a guy I used to work with, and all of my fantasies started to involve anal or oral sex with men. It's hard to explain. I guess it just kind of happened after I started to recognize my attractions and consider it. I still think women are beautiful, but not in a sexual way.

 

Man, I just realized I was a lesbian a week ago.
I am so out of the loop.

 

Weird how fast it happens right? I just realized I was gay about a month ago.

 

I think it took me so long to realise because I assumed one is really young when one realises! Then when I allowed myself to look at a woman in a sexual way, then ziiing..

LimeTime007 - It's possible that your father is waiting for a confirmation that your feelings are the same. Many people take what children say with a pinch of salt. I'm not belittling your certainty, you were sure then and you're sure now, but some things we said as children don't apply now. He might think it's something you'd be embarrassed to be reminded of, rather than something that still rings very true. He could be talking about girls because he's waiting for you to say "Yeah... Still like boys, Dad!"
But it should all be done in your own time, only when you feel ready to discuss this with him (sorry if this advice has been posted on another thread!)

 

Maybe he thinks you were just confused because you were so young? And he might think you don't remember it...

 

Yeah I only really recently started liking guys so...cant relate
How the heck would you even know at age 5 I mean think about this. I'm pretty sure that you have to mature mentally and sexually to even properly know

 

I disagree. While I can't relate as well, I do not doubt that people can know at that young of an age. I, and you probably too, had to go through puberty before we realized, but that doesn't mean other people do as well.

 

I know right? Everybody has these dramatic realization stories, and I'm just like "nope!".

 

My 6 year old's kindergarten crush is a boy. He's never met an openly gay person, but is absolutely convinced he will marry a boy someday. A friend of mine said, it's not about sexual attraction at this age, it's just a sense of what feels right. He said at younger ages, it is more about just doing what feels natural, and the attraction part comes later.

Myself, I had no idea until I was a teenager.

 

Oh my gosh, I had a crush on Velma and the Hex Girls from Scooby Doo! I didn't think anything of it until much later, though. Xxx

 

I knew I liked girls and wanted to be one when I was 3. SO I have no doubts about how you felt at that age. It's hard to convince parents though... My mom and I have quiet arguments about my femininity all the time when I bring up my childhood... (she likes to call my long hair back then a "mullet" which never stops pissing me off, its the reason that I grew my bangs out the third time I grew out my hair...) I call them quiet arguments because I haven't come out to her...

 

Actually you know what I never realized it but I was gay as a teenager, I just chose to supress it and just call myself an asexual person cause how else could I explain my lack of attraction to women. I can say a woman is sexy but I don't react in any way. I think it's because of my acting chops as well. so I could say I understood I was a bit gay cause I was going through that first stage of coming out asking Am I really not Straight. So I'm a bit of a late bloomer as I've accepted I'm gay at this stage after realizing it two weeks ago.