Hello EC, I came out to my parents at age 12, that was 1 year ago. I'm almost 14, and i'm wondering... they thought it was a phase and they switched the topic immediately, haven't spoken about it since 1 year ago. I just recently got a boyfriend, but I can't like go out to the movies without them knowing. Do you think I should tell them, I don't know what they will say. Thanks for everybody that helps, I really appreciate it! =) Edit: tell them I have a boyfriend
I think you should maybe start of a conversation by saying something like "remember how I told a year ago that I am gay.. Well, I wanted to let you know that I have met someone and I like him a lot and we have decided to date". Even if they originally thought it was a phase, it might not have helped that there was no further conversation about it.. But I wouldn't come out to them all over again as if it didn't happen the first time.. I would say something like I mentioned above, to acknowledge that you did tell them and then by saying you have met someone and adding I really like him is showing them it's a guy and that you have taken this year to think and still feel the same way.. If you tell them you have a boyfriend, then it might be something they need to think about a little more and they might begin to realize it wasn't or isn't a phase.
Why tell them anything except that you are going out to a movie with ____ and let it go at that. If they want to think of it as going on a date versus just going to a movie with a friend, let them make that association without comment, unless they bring up the sexuality question themselves. You already came out to them; nothing more is required unless/until they might want to make an issue out of it.
I'm with Yossarian. You told them a year ago. It will soon become obvious to them. Just say that you are going to the cinema with <friend's name> and leave it at that. Does he come round to your house at all? Just act as you would normally.
No good advice, but you're not alone.. I came out to my parents at 16, then again to my mom at 25.. both times they thought it was a stage and never talked about it again. I'm still working on trying it a 3rd time.. Good luck.
