At the moment my gay friend is online who is the person I'm planning to come out to first, since he'd probably be more understanding and I'm just sitting here anxiously waiting for him to start the conversation cause I'm too bloody nervous. I really want to come out to him, but I don't know how to say it. I'm too scared to just straight up say "I'm a lesbian". I know I shouldn't be, but coming out is harder than it looks. :dry: If a conversation ever happens, I want to somehow get onto the topic of LGBT or homosexuality and slowly hint towards it and then say it or see if he asks. What the f:***: do I do? I feel so dumbstruck. :bang: Why, when its on the very tip of my tongue (or fingertips in this case), I can't even get it out. The fact that its online doesn't make it less nerve-racking surprisingly.
Have you ever asked him when/how he came out to people? It's a reasonable opening question to start up a conversation. Loads of people have asked me the same question.
Well I know how, he just came out to each of us (us = our friend group) face-to-face. When he told me he just straight up said it. I don't have the guts to do that yet though, he came out to people before me though so it might've gotten easier since then, but it was all fairly new to us all so I don't know.
Could you maybe ask him how he felt when he came out to all of you? I think that would be a really useful and relevant question to get your conversation started.
It will always be difficult at first. Lots of things to think about, worries, anxiety...But think about it, the longer you contain your feeling, the longer your agony will be. It is always but good to be true to yourself no matter who you are. I salute the courageous people who came out and became happy.
I know the feeling. I have been on the edge of telling my mom for the past couple of weeks but still haven't done it. The pressure comes and goes in episodes and increases each time. Eventually, I will give in under the pressure.
Well I didn't end up talking to him, hopefully soon. I really want to get it off my chest to someone asap.