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Still Need To Come Out To One More Guy

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Hartosexual, Oct 5, 2014.

  1. Hartosexual

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    So I have this guy friend who knows me really know but he doesn't actually know I'm gay. He thinks I'm pansexual (I don't know why). So anyway. He has this huge crush on me and I don't exactly know how to tell him that I'm not into him because I only like girls. Please someone help? I really don't want to hurt his feelings cause I love him but as a friend :bang: :confused:
     
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    You are who you are, so just talk to him. If he is a good friend he'll understand that you just want to keep things platonic.
     
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    I really don't want to hurt him though
     
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    It's probably better to hurt his feelings and say you aren't into him than saying nothing and letting him live under the illusion that you could possibly get together - it's probably better for you both in the long run.
     
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    Realistically, I think your best bet is to make plain that you're just not into guys. If you can really make him realize that it's nothing personal, that might help. If he's really a good friend, I hope he'll be able to accept that for what it is and his feelings won't be too hurt. Sure, he might be crushed to begin with, but if you can get across that there's nothing about him personally that you don't like, that it's just a blanket "no guys" thing, I think you'll be fine. Best of luck!
     
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    talk mit him, nothing helps more. I know it is hard, but you manage that. Good luke :*
     
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    Thanks everyone, I'm gonna tell him on Saturday so yeah! Thanks ^.^
     
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    Good luck (*hug*)
     
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    Thats the right approach!
     
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    HE was totally cool with it! He's a little upset that we can't be together but he's ok
     
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    That's great news man! Yeah being a little upset seems normal.