Innocent question-Bi Girls vs. Lesbians

Here's something that helps me a LOT. If I'm not sure of what/who is accepted in a gathering, I call first, an ask questions. Then I know what to expect, so I know if it's worth attending. After all, you have to feel comfortable!

 

Well.. if they are worth being friends with they should be more understanding and accepting of you then just running you out of the room just because you say you're bi and married to a man! Alot of women like other women who are married to men and hate that they don't get to express that side of themselves! A support group is suppose to be a support group!

I say go check it out and if they turn out to be total tools then fuck them all. Good Luck!

 

We don't hate bisexuals, although I know myself and many other lesbians would never date one that's already involved with a man. If you're just looking for friends, that's fine

 

I can't speak for everyone...polyamory can happen in all sexualities, though most lesbians I know would not want to share with a guy. It doesn't really have to do with refusing bisexuality in general (since a lot of bisexuals can be monogamous), but more so that a lot of lesbians, in my experience, think men are bigger competition than women and they set off the jealousy radar more than other women do. Kind of like how a lot of straight men are okay with their girlfriends dating and having sex with other women, but for some reason they draw the line at them being with other men or having threesomes involving men (which I sometimes find to be a ridiculous double standard really).
if you're talking about me personally, I would only refuse the situation because I'm monogamous, not because the other person is bisexual.

I mean I'm not saying that you won't find a lesbian that's okay with it, just in my experience that It's very very rare, so you have to be honest and upfront with them knowing this. I honestly find that bisexual women are more open-minded in this situation.

There is nothing wrong with polyamory though, just that a lot of people unfortunately don't seem to get it, and especially not when it involves separate genders sadly.

 

A lot of people don't understand bisexuality and polyamory and can't wrap their head around it, straight and gay people alike.. A lot of misconceptions with bisexuality is when a lesbian is with a bisexual woman, They think their partner might leave them for a man at a later time, so it's fear of the unknown.. A lot of people think that bisexual people can't be monogamous and that is I think a lot of where the fear steams from.. Polyamory has nothing to do with sexuality as it can be something straight, and gay people wanna get involved with..

However from my point of view.. As a single bi/pan woman.. Whomever I want to enter into a romantic and sexual relationship with also needs to be single. I myself don't want to get involved with someone who already is in a relationship or a marriage even if their other half has approved.. Mainly cause I don't want to be the second priority and I don't want things to get messy and complicated if it gets more serious, I could never expect to have someone pick me over their husband/wife and that would mean me getting hurt, so I don't been go there with a woman or a man already in a committed relationship.

If you are just looking for someone to talk to and be friends with, I don't see how a lesbian would be worried about that. The only time I would think it would be an issue is if you were looking at developing a romantic relationship with a lesbian when you were already married. I know a lot of single women on another site I am on which sadly I can't mention the name of who have been there and been hurt when their partner choice their husband over them.. I also have had a couple of women choice their girlfriend over their husband and it has led to a lot of hurt between the husband and wife and a messy divorce and breakup.. So I think a lot of single woman wether they are lesbians or bi like myself, Just don't wanna get involved romantically with someone who is married.

As long as you are only looking to make friends and nothing else, then I don't see the issue really if the women are nice and kind.

 

I'm ok with friendship and I wouldn't hate on a bisexual woman or say mean things because she's with a man . I just wouldn't date one that was with a man , I'm monogamous and I don't share lovers and I'm a selfish person .
But We can be friends(!)