I plan to come out this Saturday as both genderqueer and pansexual to my immediate family. How I am going to come out is not the problem, but rather that I'm afraid they will think it's a phase. My dad most likely won't have a problem with it, as he hardly ever questions my 'choices' unless they affect him directly. My grandparents are a different story. They are very conservative - you know, like the kind of people who sit around watching Fox News all day. Even if I were to explain to the best of my ability I doubt they'd understand. I guess the biggest problem is that my grandmother will probably think I am trying to get attention. I have a bit of an alternative fashion, and I guess this translates to her that I'm an attention seeker. Whenever I dye my hair, or even mention something I enjoy that is unusual she asks me why I can't just be normal, or why I want people to notice me. Which isn't even something that crosses my mind until she brings it up. How can I prove to her that this is not a phase and I am not just trying to be different or get attention? I'm debating just to tell my dad and not tell my grandparents at all. But they have a great influence on my life, so I feel as though they should know. Please give my your opinions. Thanks.
Be prepared to explain what genderqueer and pansexal means, because I am pretty surethey aren't going to understand what that is. My advice to you in regards to your grandmother, don't worry about it. She is going to say it's a phase because she wants it to be. She wants you to be "normal." Let her think that. As long as you know who you are, it shouldn't bother you.
