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letter to mom, thoughts?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by 87thspartan, Oct 18, 2014.

  1. 87thspartan

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    Mom,

    I am writing this to you because iI fear I may never find the words. You have always taught me to believe in myself and everything I do. It breaks my heart every time I talk to you and can't bring myself to tell you who I really am. I have decided that I will no longer live a double life and I owe it to you to tell you the truth.

    mom,I am a gay man. i Did not choose this, but ratheI am choosing to be honest about it with foremost, myself, and you as well. i Hope that this does not seperatseparate us as family, but know that if I will always love you. I just ask for the same love in return.

    forever yours,


    (all mistakes are my retarded phones fault). Thoughts?
     
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    thats sounds good dude, i think you should give it to her :slight_smile:
     
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    That's a great letter!
     
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    It's brief and to the point, but says everything you need to say and is clearly from the heart.
     
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    Yes it is perfect please give it to her and let us know what happens we are all rooting for you !!
     
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    I think it sounds great :slight_smile: You should give it to her whenever you're ready.
     
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    I think that sounds really wonderful, it is from the heart and that's all you can ask for.
     
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    Good luck and I really hope your mum understands!!!
     
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    Perfect! Only thing needed is to correct grammar; no fancy grammar needed though. Concise, brilliant! Just, act with caution, ensure she isn't homophobic, ot that she wont tell someone who i (e.g. Grandparents)
     
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    Well I have it written and in an envelope addressed...now iI just need someone to break in, steal it, and mail it for me....

    volunteers?
     
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    Alright, I managed to send it yesterday. Now I play the waiting game.
     
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    :thumbsup: - Let us know how it goes.
     
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    came out to my bro today, good vibes there, out to everyone important except mom. soon...
     
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    oh manm i thought i had more time...just looked how long on average it takes a letter to get from my city to hers...if she didnt get it yesterday shes getting it today. let the freaking out commence
     
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    You will be fine. Go buy yourself a smoothie and relax; let her do any freaking out required.:kiss:
     
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    :eusa_clap I think telling her face to face could've been a better option but the letter is pretty good written so
     
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    I'm glad things went well with your brother. That's great :slight_smile:

    Hope you get a positive response! Let us know how it goes. We'll be thinking of you (*hug*)
     
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    Well, I got a text yesterday from that just said "love you". I'll take what I can get, but my mother never texts. Very adamant about phone calls and real-time communication, but if that is all she could muster then I will take it, just glad to not be disowned.
     
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    She has probably received the letter and needs a bit of time to fully process her thoughts and feelings about it. She wasn't forewarned, so give her a bit of time.

    Sending the text when she is more keen on real-time says quite a lot really.
     
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    Sounds like a good start. If she never texts, remember it probably took her a long time just to type that in! I really hope things go well with you and your mom. She says she loves you, and if she does, she will accept you.

    As one Spartan to another, I salute your bravery! :icon_wink