I've come out to close friends, family, and team mates before. I feel kind of ready to just put it out there in the open, but I'm not 100% sure. How do you know if you're ready for that?
It's cliché, but you'll know when the time is right. A big pointer is when you're tired of hiding it AND you don't care if anyone finds out or knows.
If I was in your position, I would just let people figure it out. Don't tell them all together and make a big show of it, just tell a few people you like and let people think it over themselves. That way, you won't have everybody looking at you funny and there won't be as much of a shock factor associated with it. If people ask, just tell them! It sounds like you are ready to be yourself :icon_bigg Even though I have openly shared my sexuality with people, a lot of them simply don't know or don't have the guts to ask me about it lol. There's no need to make your identity into a huge topic of discussion, it's just who you are
My thought process back in the day was that coming out involved two parts: * Telling those close to me. * Not caring who else knows. Once I had the first part down, I was pretty much done. I didn't bother chasing down the mailman or the guy three doors down to let him know I was gay. If it came up, great. If it didn't, no big deal. If you're in that same sort of mindset, you might just go that route. Lex
Quite a few threads on this exact topic. And I agree with Lexington as well. At some point, "coming out" evolves to where you no longer are anxious when you come out to people. If you are anxious to get a "mass mailing" out there, social networks are a good way to do it.
Thank you everyone. I think Lexington and Bubblemonger are probably right. I should just focus on telling everyone close to me. Then, if someone ask I can tell them. That avoids the big shock factor to everyone and all that "fun" stuff. I also like what Bubblemonger suggested on another thread: I could also say my thoughs/feelings aloud. That will probably help me feel better. That way, it's not all locked up inside. If I ever need a "mass mailing" I probably will go with some video online. In opinion, a video spreads the message better than writing would.
