Little Sister - Tell her or not?

I was told my dad was gay when I was four, my oldest brother was ten. I took it fine and I grew up knowing he was gay so I never cared but my brother took it really tough at first and it took him awhile to get used to it. So in my opinion the younger the sibling, kid, or whatever the better they'll take it and the faster they'll accept it.

 

My youngest son is now 10, he was 9 when his brother came out to us, he took it fine. Brothers and sisters might like to wind each other up in fun but when push comes to shove you will usually find that your siblings will back you all the way.

I don't know your sister or your relationship with her but if you feel you would like to tell her then do so. If she finds out several years from now she will quite rightly feel hurt that you didn't trust her.

 

She is definitely old enough to understand. If you want to tell her, then do it! Good luck!

 

I knew I was bisexual when I was twelve. If I was old enough to come out to myself, I think your sister is old enough to have her big brother come out to her.

 

I don't think there's much to add here, i agree with all the comments above but i just thought id give my vote. Telling your sister may actually help your parents come to accept you if they see how understanding your sister is with it and im sorry your parents are taking your coming out badly, I hope things get better

 

I think she is too young to handle it well, she may just laugh and tell all of her little friends but im sure you wont see too big of a reaction in her. Sense your parents take your sexuality in such a wrong manor you can tell her how normal the situation really is.

Tofu babi

 

Ok before I begin about your sister.. WTF!? Your parents are being complete b4$74rd$! That needs to be addressed urgently, the sooner the better. Your mum must be in denial.. Badly.

And with your sister I'd probably tell her too. If you feel she's too young to understand you could do the whole talk of "When a man loves another man.." (just not grubby..)

 

I can't agree with that. Although at twelve anything sexual makes you snigger and giggle I can't see a brother or sister running round saying that sort of thing about a family member. Most siblings are very protective of their families.

I had 'the talk' with my son telling him that this was his brother's private life and that I didn't expect to find out that he had been sniggering about it behind our backs with his mates, that this was family business and only my son had the right to tell anyone or not. My son was most indignant that I should say this to him and told me that of course he wansn't going to go round talking about anyones private life! Who did I think he was!!!

 

when i came out my sister was 13. She was definitely too young to handle it. She started crying, not for me, but for fear that her social life was going to be ruined, and immediately deleted me from facebook, and basically stopped associating with me soon after that... so yeah, buyer beware, your mileage may vary.

 

I think that iof you feel that she would take it well, and that you are ready for her to know then you should tell her. It sounds to me like you need some family allies, and i'm sure that your sister will be there for you no matter what. You guys sound close, which is real nice, i think that this woulkd only bring you closer.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

 

Well my sister is 12 and I have chosen not to tell her until she is older not so much for the reason that she will not understand because she will but she is at a stage where she thinks pretty much everything mum thinks is right and mums against it so I am going to wait until she is older and can form her own opinions. Plus she is a real drama queen and would react really over the top and I don't need that.