I'm 24 but I still live at home and I'm bisexual. I'll only be living at home until February and then I'm moving out of state. I've come out to my best friend, my other super close friends, and 2 other friends. They all took it really well and are very supportive and caring and open. I'm not really certain on what my aunt/uncle's view point is on LGBTQA issues. I think they are fairly conservative however. I do know that my grandmother is EXTREMELY CONSERVATIVE. Her opinion of one of my best friends completely changed when she found out that he was gay and I'm terrified of her opinion of me changing because of this. Anyone have advice?
The only advice I can give is that you can't let other people's opinions of you control your life. I have allowed that to happen for way too long.
Don't allow the opinions of others to rule your life, all you can do is tell them, then the balls in their court.
Don't allow the opinions of others to rule your life, all you can do is tell them, then the balls in their court.
Don't allow the opinions of others to rule your life, all you can do is tell them, then the balls in their court.
Well, I came out to my nana and it didn't go too well at all. I started out subtly by asking her "if you knew someone who was gay, lesbian or bisexual how would you react?" And she went on to say well we don't know why those things happen to good people...and then she said I guess I would still try to accept them even though it's a sin. And then she said, who are you talking about? and I said, "Me. I've always been into girls and guys. I could see myself dating and being with either sex. " And she told me, "Well you only think you're into girls..you really aren't, it's just that you have been rejected by guys so you use/view girls as a replacement, which isn't even close to true. She never once said I accept you or I still love you. And that hurt. Overall it was just a really awkward and uncomfortable conversation.
Those words are exactly what my parents said, and I don't blame them. The idea of gay/bisexual didn't shock them; the fact that I was in fact gay/bisexual is what startled them. Then again my parents weren't knowledgeable of "how do you know if you're gay/bisexual" so my explanation of it was enough to convince them a little more. I think how your aunt reacted is reasonable, since I don't think she saw that coming. The way she associated bisexual people is what startled her, like "oh you're a good person, you can't be bisexual." I think in the end she'll see LGBT in a new light, and you can be the one to show her the way.
Thanks! That was actually my grandmother's reaction. I'm telling my aunt/uncle tomorrow. I did come out to a close friend and that did not go well at all. She had your typical bigoted Southern Baptist view point. She told me she looks at this as a choice and something that I need to "work through and get rid of." She went on to tell me how it was a sin and she's sending me Bible verses to read. It left me feeling stung and upset.
I am so sorry this is happing to you ,I know what you are going threw I just came out my self and it went badly! I don t know what to say can help you out other than we are here for you please feel free to talk to me if you ever need to I am a great listner . Have a great day
Well I came out to my aunt last night and she told me she doesn't think this is a real thing and that it's just a phase and something I'm experimenting with. I explained that I know this is really who I am and she didn't seem to get it.
